Why don’t parents and adults just actually play legitimately?

When your child wants to race you at the playground on the kiddie rock wall, why is there this assumption that your child can
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t actually race you? Instead it seems that grown
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ups will just barely move, and act like the Kiddie

wall is the hardest thing ever. Why not actually climb, and actually race your child like they are wanting you to do
?

The whole point of a rock wall races to see who can get to the top first. Why is there always the assumption that the adult or parent will always win? Why don
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t they let their kid actually race with them on the Rockwall? What would happen if they did?
It is the same thing when a child wants to arm wrestle with them the adult seemingly barely even does much of anything, and it is very obvious that they are just straight up letting their kid win. Why doesn
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t the adult actually put in effort when they arm wrestle? Why not actually challenge your kid, the whole point of arm wrestling is to see who is strong stronger. Again why is there always the assumption that their kid can
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t win in arm wrestling? Why doesn
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t the adult actually play an actual arm wrestling match against them to see who would win?
I have also noticed this when parents have a running relay race with their child. Why don
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t the parents actually run? Instead they will sort of do this really awkward walking, and they end up just letting their kid win. The whole point of a running race is to see Who is going to get there first. Why not actually run and actually challenge your kid? Why is there always the assumption that their kid can
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t have an actual legitimate running race against them? What would happen if they did?

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Convivial · 26-30, F

I might disagree with your point about racing to the top of the rock wall... Is the opponent the parent... Or the child's own confidence in themselves ...?

2goboXes · 26-30, F

@Convivial I’m saying they should let their kid prove themselves that they can climb the kiddie wall first, prove that they can win in a arm wrestling match, prove that they can run the fastest in a running race. Instead the adult always assumes that they can’t for some reason. In order to build confidence you need to have an actual competition

Convivial · 26-30, F

@2goboXes true, but often the most telling competition is against your own beliefs in what you think you can do 🤗

2goboXes · 26-30, F

@Convivial but isn’t that giving false confidence given that the child isn’t really getting any actual challenge? When your arm wrestling what is hard about winning when the person your arm wrestling against isn’t even doing anything, or the person you’re running against is barely even walking, or when you’re climbing up the rock wall your opponent basically doesn’t move?

Convivial · 26-30, F

@2goboXes I was thinking more of rock climbing when mentioning competing against your own beliefs... And as for competing against others, it's a fine line to tread between overpowering them constantly as an adult but providing enough of a challenge so they feel they can win

2goboXes · 26-30, F

@Convivial that’s what I’m asking though, why are you saying “so they feel they can win“ and why are you assuming that there would be overpowering? That’s what I’m saying here, actually run when your child wants to have a race, actually put in effort during an arm wrestling match, actually climb on the Rockwall with your child does that make sense?