Does a father who is not only co-parenting but is the custodial parent have to pay child support to his ex-wife in Mo.?

@Ontheroad They told my son he had to pay off the back child support he owed but once that was paid off he would not have to pay anything.

@Ontheroad thanks a buch.

@sweetiepoo you can go to justia.com and lookup more of the law.

@LeopoldBloom You would think, but that isn't the case. A group of us are trying to find a good lawyer for him.

@sweetiepoo I'm saying that's how it should be. I'm aware that it doesn't always work out that way. Co-parenting of course is different. He definitely needs a good lawyer.

@HannibalAteMeOut exactly, that is what no one understands.

@sweetiepoo yeah it's not a gender thing, it's a parent thing. Isn't it legal in the US for same sex couples to adopt/ have children in any way? How does it work if they break up then? If they are two men, both pay? And if two women, no one does? It just doesn't make sense.

@HannibalAteMeOut It doesn't make any sense at all.

@CestManan It's tough.

@canusernamebemyusername He is indeed. It is a headache.

@Thevy29 wow.

@Justmeraeagain hmm. thank you. I'll ask him about it. To my knowledge, he doesn't own back child support.

@sweetiepoo then I can't see how he would owe anything.
Mother of my granddaughter was still collecting benefits even after she wasn't the custodial parent and I know that's not allowed

@WhateverWorks I don't know all the details. I only know so much.

I see. Well, the answers to your questions would be in the parenting plan they agreed to when the divorce happened. your partner should have a copy. Custody may have been granted to her automatically and he didn’t contest it. You don’t really need a lawyer though. You go to the courthouse to request a hearing to update the parenting plan and bring all your documentation showing that the child is living with you, going to school by your address under your guardianship etc. receipts for food and clothing possibly . any kind of correspondence with the mother demonstrating that she hasn’t been involved. Then the judge switches over your custody to make the father the primary.

There’s also the possibility that he’s not actually paying her child support, but alimony.

@sweetiepoo

@WhateverWorks hmm. thanks a lot. I may run it by him. She is involved as they have joint custody. I can't remember if the school they go to was closer to his or her home, but let's just say it's a great big mess right now and he is pretty stressed. I don't like seeing him like that and we just want to help him out the best way we can.

@Lyndawifeandmom That's what a group of us are trying to do to help him, but a lot of them are bad. In it only for the money and do a terrible job.

@sweetiepoo They shouldn't charge for giving a quick personal opinion over the phone .

@gregloa It's shared custody. and they live with him most of the time.

@sweetiepoo joint custody neither parent pays child support. Must be alimony.

@gregloa hmm. thanks. I will look more into this, bc he clearly said child support.

@ViciDraco He clearly said child support, but I can't be 100% sure.

@empanadas the father is extremely active and is the custodial parent.