Does a father who is not only co-parenting but is the custodial parent have to pay child support to his ex-wife in Mo.?

I've done research on this, but still haven't found an answer.

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It might be an issue with the parenting plan being out of date. Unless a judge agrees to a 50-50 custody arrangement, which is pretty rare, the primary receives child support. Even if he has his kids 40% of the time she would still get child support for on paper having them 60% of the time. It also might be that he’s paying backdated child support from when she was the primary custodial parent.

sweetiepoo · 36-40, F

@WhateverWorks thanks. She was never the primary custodial parent though. They were married. She had multiple affairs and she wanted a divorce. She moved out and now lives with her boyfriend. I just don't get it. He really needs a good lawyer.

WhateverWorks · 36-40

What’s the parenting plan say? @sweetiepoo

sweetiepoo · 36-40, F

@WhateverWorks I don't know all the details. I only know so much.

WhateverWorks · 36-40

I see. Well, the answers to your questions would be in the parenting plan they agreed to when the divorce happened. your partner should have a copy. Custody may have been granted to her automatically and he didn’t contest it. You don’t really need a lawyer though. You go to the courthouse to request a hearing to update the parenting plan and bring all your documentation showing that the child is living with you, going to school by your address under your guardianship etc. receipts for food and clothing possibly . any kind of correspondence with the mother demonstrating that she hasn’t been involved. Then the judge switches over your custody to make the father the primary.

There’s also the possibility that he’s not actually paying her child support, but alimony.

@sweetiepoo

sweetiepoo · 36-40, F

@WhateverWorks hmm. thanks a lot. I may run it by him. She is involved as they have joint custody. I can't remember if the school they go to was closer to his or her home, but let's just say it's a great big mess right now and he is pretty stressed. I don't like seeing him like that and we just want to help him out the best way we can.