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is it better to give no gift at all then a gift the person is not going to like and is going to throw away?

what kind of present would you get for a person who hates presents?I just don't even know what to do. my mom hates all the presents I got her, she even hated the fact that I got her money, she thinks its something people do when they don't have time to go out and buy something. she thinks its not really a real present.I tried making her thins I have tried buying her things i tried gift cards, she didn't use them one she lost. I dont really want to buy her anything anymore or spend time making anything. she said that gifts are ways of giving people junk they will never use. she is so ungrateful isnt having gifts you dont like that much better then never getting a gift for the rest of your life?
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DearAmbellina2113 · 41-45, F
I'm pretty cutthroat when it comes to gifts. I will give what I can, and if the receipient complains even once, they never get anything from me again. I used to make different kinds of fudge for everyone for Christmas, but then one year my mom asked me "What am I getting for Christmas this year? And don't say [i]fudge[/i]." So guess what she got from me instead? NOTHING. 💁
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Serenitree · F
I am a lot like your Mom. I don't hate gifts, but there really isn't anything I need and I'd rather not get something I'll shove in a cupboard or closet and never look at again, so my kids have finally stopped trying. Now I get what I really want.....time with them. Instead of buying gifts, they take me to places I want to go. Concerts, live theatre, dinner at really nice restaurants. These are all things I wouldn't want to do alone, and couldn't afford, if I would, so I'm getting the best gifts and spending good quality time with my loved ones.
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iamnikki · 31-35, F
@Serenitree oh and also bubble bath and sprays😒. They always either stink or have that cheap plastic smell. Can you at least wait until Bath & Body Works has their yearly 75% off sale and get me something that actually smells good for only three bucks?😂
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Serenitree · F
@iamnikki Well, that's one thing no one in my family would ever get me. I've been using unscented everything for a very long time. I'm super sensitive to so many products and allergic to a few.
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iamnikki · 31-35, F
@Serenitree Oh I see. I love them though i'm sure they aren't good for us,,,chemicals and stuff. One step at a time for me I guess. Least I use aluminum free deodorant now. Good stuff😁
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Vivaci
Some people don't appreciate genuine feelings.... they're just too materialistic. To the extent that if you give them anything worth even 5000$, they'll think of how others buy even more expensive stuff...they'll never say thank you or anything....
So don't waste your time trying to understand her. She'll never get it.
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Girlyfriendcollecting · F
@Vivaci yea its hard, she does say thank you luckily but then she says I dont need this. our family is a big gift giving family so there is a lot of pressure to get my parents things. I feel bad because she buys me a lot of things.
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Vivaci
@Girlyfriendcollecting I come from a similar family and I can understand your pressure. Just give her a budget and ask to buy anything she wants from Amazon. That's what I do! 😝
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SW-User
Don't get them a present, she clearly doesn't like them
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iamnikki · 31-35, F
Sounds very ungrateful . don't gether anything
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silentkillx2 · F
Id honestly rather not get shit then gifts i would never use just wastes the other persons money and more junk lying around for me. If i were you i wouldnt get her nothing or u could try taking her out to eat cant go wrong with free food.
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froggtongue · M
Giving her gifts isn't making her happy, right? So the gift to give her is… not giving her a gift. Seriously. You've tried it the other way. Give this different approach a chance and see what happens.
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reflectingmonkey · 51-55, M
you could ask her to make a list of things she WOULD like, that way if she says she wants nothing, boom, you're off the hook.
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Girlyfriendcollecting · F
@reflectingmonkey did ask her, i wanted to buy something for her but she would not let me even buy something one hundred dollars she says she dosent want me spending that much money on her, everything that she said she wants is expensive, im still willing to buy it she is not willing to accept it. i will look like a idiot the only person not giving my own mother a gift.
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reflectingmonkey · 51-55, M
@Girlyfriendcollecting well she didn't answer " I don't want anything" so you are NOT off the hook. so did she actually name things that she wants but said it was too expensive? if its the case then get it for her anyway.
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OldSoul11 · 56-60, M
Big ass card...Two pieces of poster board tied together ,on the front write Merry Christmas, on the inside a middle finger with Love You below it... $10
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EdjeMonkeys · 22-25, M
I would say receiving a gift at all is better. Consider something handmade that will be special to them not just as a material item.
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Girlyfriendcollecting · F
@EdjeMonkeys yea I have made things before. I now have tons of ideas for my dad for christmas and no ideas for my mom, I thought my dad was hard to buy for but my mom is much harder. she should understand she is hard to but for.
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EdjeMonkeys · 22-25, M
Has your mum said out loud that she hates them? That's awful! Still, I suggest a handmade card or something similar. Try thinking about her recent interests.
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Girlyfriendcollecting · F
@EdjeMonkeys no she has said that she dosent like it but she did not use the word hate, mostly she just throws them away, she said that that's not what she wants and she said that gifts are crap people give each other. I have asked her what she wants but either I end up picking out the wrong thing or she tells me not to buy it for her because she does not want me spending that much money on her. which is sweet but I never get to get anything for her and I have to watch while other people give her grate gifts that she is happy about or amazed at, she likes other peoples gifts and hates mine.
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labsrock · M
How about a day spa?
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Girlyfriendcollecting · F
@labsrock good idea but I cant afford that
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labsrock · M
@Girlyfriendcollecting Just do a pedicure or manicure then.
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SW-User
A singing telegram. 😄
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JovialPlutonian · 36-40, M
That's what everyone does anyway isn't it, buy you stuff that you'll never keep just to feel generous lol
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Serenitree · F
@JovialPlutonian My kids tended to buy me things that they wanted. They'd get one for them, and be so pleased with it, they'd buy a second one for me, thinking I couldn't possibly not like [i]it......[/i] Whatever [i]it [/i] was.
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pentacorn · F
make a donation to St. Jude’s Cancer Research Hospital in her name. win, win.
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Girlyfriendcollecting · F
@pentacorn how is that a gift?
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pentacorn · F
@Girlyfriendcollecting it’s always a gift to help children who have cancer, and she won’t have to find space on a shelf for it.
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MasterofNone · 26-30, M
Give them a book.
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