Barefooter25 · 46-50, M
WillaKissing · 56-60, M
I raised my son and daughter by myself as well. What I did is made friends with women my age and way younger that I trusted and when these things came up, I let my daughter to hang out with the lady for a day or evening after asking the lady to help coach my daughter through the issue/issues I had no clue about.
Good luck.
Good luck.
WillaKissing · 56-60, M
@Cigarguy You are quite welcome, and that is why I picked women my ex-wife's age and younger that were older than my daughter that had been through those changes themselves. So, my daughter had more of a peer support and understanding woman to help her. I found the ones closer to her age in the range of 18 to 30 years of age were received best by my daughter.
Doctors that are not female have no real clue what it is like for an Adolescent girl moving into woman hood of what she is going through inside of herself that they have not read out of a textbook. It takes a woman to mentor a teen girl in that arena, and for me to know my fatherly limitations on this subject.
Doctors that are not female have no real clue what it is like for an Adolescent girl moving into woman hood of what she is going through inside of herself that they have not read out of a textbook. It takes a woman to mentor a teen girl in that arena, and for me to know my fatherly limitations on this subject.
Cigarguy · 41-45, M
@WillaKissing all of her doctor's are female just for this reason. And my partner and I are both trying to learn more about what she is going through and how to help, but there isn't a how to book for this lol.
Just last night was hard on her and she was very frustrated and embarrassed but she needed help but she didn't want help so it was tough. Quite honestly I am so thankful that she did not have a panic attack because she was getting very overwhelmed. I told her to talk to her counselor about this at her appointment and we would make an appointment for her regular doctor to try to help and see if there's something we can do to learn more to help her ease into this new part of her life.
Just last night was hard on her and she was very frustrated and embarrassed but she needed help but she didn't want help so it was tough. Quite honestly I am so thankful that she did not have a panic attack because she was getting very overwhelmed. I told her to talk to her counselor about this at her appointment and we would make an appointment for her regular doctor to try to help and see if there's something we can do to learn more to help her ease into this new part of her life.
Boeing · 36-40
Your daughter has a lot more love and a loving family that many households with traditional structure lack of. So that thing there.
Then, she does have Star and Grandma, and other female role models around her I am certain...
Many girls grow up with mothers that don't necessarily inform them properly about the things they are going through. Or are instilling into them sometimes wrong, strict, strange ideas about womanhood that can fill the young ones, instead of knowledge, with shame around their womanhood.
So worry not that much. Of course, you need to get inform etc. I'm certain your willingness to be there for her is more than enough..
Then, she does have Star and Grandma, and other female role models around her I am certain...
Many girls grow up with mothers that don't necessarily inform them properly about the things they are going through. Or are instilling into them sometimes wrong, strict, strange ideas about womanhood that can fill the young ones, instead of knowledge, with shame around their womanhood.
So worry not that much. Of course, you need to get inform etc. I'm certain your willingness to be there for her is more than enough..
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Boeing · 36-40
@Cigarguy Oh yes I see, I understand there are some dirty minds around.
yes in the beginning it can be shocking... You can talk to her about how, once her cycle will slowly become regular, it will be of 28 days, exactly as many days as the moon cycle is - if you would fancy that - but I think it is a cool idea that makes children feel how their bodies share the magic of nature.
Also another thing I would personally look for, if I had a daughter, would be to get her some period panties - waterproof that she can wear without the pads, especially for younger ones, it might feel more natural transition.
Perhaps getting her some colorful sheets ? I don't know what you have already, but red blood on the white cloths is much of a contrast..
And avoid wearing light color bottoms, at least outside the house, until her period stabilizes - I mean perhaps you have thought of these things, but some practical tips for a smoother transition..
Feel free to PM me if you need to ask something at some point. All the best..:)
yes in the beginning it can be shocking... You can talk to her about how, once her cycle will slowly become regular, it will be of 28 days, exactly as many days as the moon cycle is - if you would fancy that - but I think it is a cool idea that makes children feel how their bodies share the magic of nature.
Also another thing I would personally look for, if I had a daughter, would be to get her some period panties - waterproof that she can wear without the pads, especially for younger ones, it might feel more natural transition.
Perhaps getting her some colorful sheets ? I don't know what you have already, but red blood on the white cloths is much of a contrast..
And avoid wearing light color bottoms, at least outside the house, until her period stabilizes - I mean perhaps you have thought of these things, but some practical tips for a smoother transition..
Feel free to PM me if you need to ask something at some point. All the best..:)
Cigarguy · 41-45, M
@Boeing I have never heard of those. I have so many questions lol
The biggest issue is my daughter has some severe sensory issues and only likes to wear a certain type of material. She prefers cotton over anything. So I don't know if those would work I'd have to see what they are made out of and how they feel.
The biggest issue is my daughter has some severe sensory issues and only likes to wear a certain type of material. She prefers cotton over anything. So I don't know if those would work I'd have to see what they are made out of and how they feel.
Boeing · 36-40
@Cigarguy The panties, I did a quick search and I'm not sure if you can find them in cotton, there are with cotton coverage and there are also cotton reusable sanitary pads, to avoid the sanitary pads of the market. You need to search in your area as I am in Europe. I'll send you a PM with a link to a product to have a look and get an idea.
MummyKaren72 · 46-50, F
nevergiveup · 61-69, M
@MummyKaren72 My wife was sleeping with another man and when i found out i told my kids and all the family what she had done. When i left the bank account was empty she moved all the money so i left with just my cloths. My kids are much closer to me than her but i moved on and now spend as much time with my kids and grand kids
4meAndyou · F
LOADS of good advice here. I'm so glad you have SO many really good friends, who give you truly thoughtful and careful advice and insight!
