Rasing a daughter without a mother is hard

I never planned on raising my children without their mother but I have no choice now. My boy is easy most of his struggles are missing her and I have him seeing a counselor to help with that.

But my daughter the other hand that's a different story. As she gets older I know less and less about how to help her with things that she is going through. Things a girl needs to talk to her mom about. Changes she doesn't understand and I don't either. She has Grandma and Star but I know it's not the same. I hate that I can't fix this issue for her. I think I'm going to talk to her doctors about this and how try and make things easier on her.

I hate that women for doing this to my children.

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WillaKissing · 56-60, M

I raised my son and daughter by myself as well. What I did is made friends with women my age and way younger that I trusted and when these things came up, I let my daughter to hang out with the lady for a day or evening after asking the lady to help coach my daughter through the issue/issues I had no clue about.

Good luck.

Cigarguy · 41-45, M

@WillaKissing thank you for the advice, that is very helpful she has her grandma and Star to help but it's still not the same as her mother. I just hope this issue gets a little earlier and more regular for her.

Boeing · 36-40

Your daughter has a lot more love and a loving family that many households with traditional structure lack of. So that thing there.
Then, she does have Star and Grandma, and other female role models around her I am certain...
Many girls grow up with mothers that don't necessarily inform them properly about the things they are going through. Or are instilling into them sometimes wrong, strict, strange ideas about womanhood that can fill the young ones, instead of knowledge, with shame around their womanhood.
So worry not that much. Of course, you need to get inform etc. I'm certain your willingness to be there for her is more than enough..

Cigarguy · 41-45, M

@Boeing last night was just hard, she had issues in the middle of the night and got very upset. I did my best to calm her down and make her feel better. Thank you for the kind words it means alot. We're trying our best

LavidaRaq · F

I was raised by my father. I’m sure he felt the same. He treated me just like the boys. My aunt always wanted him to make me go live with her. I’m forever grateful to him for keeping me home. Just be there for her, as I’m sure you are. She will be fine.

Cigarguy · 41-45, M

@LavidaRaq thank you, that makes me feel better. I really do my best and if I'm in over my head I reach out to try and get her the help they need.

MummyKaren72 · 46-50, F

I know that feeling, my husband left when Kaci was 5 and Ashleigh was 13, he just walked out without a goodbye. I found later he had been seeing another woman all the time, my girls wanted their Dad but eventually i told them what he had done, it made it somewhat easier.

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nevergiveup · 61-69, M

@MummyKaren72 My wife was sleeping with another man and when i found out i told my kids and all the family what she had done. When i left the bank account was empty she moved all the money so i left with just my cloths. My kids are much closer to me than her but i moved on and now spend as much time with my kids and grand kids

Cigarguy · 41-45, M

@MummyKaren72 he was 5 when she left.

MummyKaren72 · 46-50, F

@Cigarguy that iscl the hard part a young man like that should not have to deal with such a thing in his young life, he has a life to live and does not need that playing on his mind.

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