Rasing a daughter without a mother is hard

I never planned on raising my children without their mother but I have no choice now. My boy is easy most of his struggles are missing her and I have him seeing a counselor to help with that.

But my daughter the other hand that's a different story. As she gets older I know less and less about how to help her with things that she is going through. Things a girl needs to talk to her mom about. Changes she doesn't understand and I don't either. She has Grandma and Star but I know it's not the same. I hate that I can't fix this issue for her. I think I'm going to talk to her doctors about this and how try and make things easier on her.

I hate that women for doing this to my children.

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WillaKissing · 56-60, M

I raised my son and daughter by myself as well. What I did is made friends with women my age and way younger that I trusted and when these things came up, I let my daughter to hang out with the lady for a day or evening after asking the lady to help coach my daughter through the issue/issues I had no clue about.

Good luck.

Cigarguy · 41-45, M

@WillaKissing thank you for the advice, that is very helpful she has her grandma and Star to help but it's still not the same as her mother. I just hope this issue gets a little earlier and more regular for her.

WillaKissing · 56-60, M

@Cigarguy You are quite welcome, and that is why I picked women my ex-wife's age and younger that were older than my daughter that had been through those changes themselves. So, my daughter had more of a peer support and understanding woman to help her. I found the ones closer to her age in the range of 18 to 30 years of age were received best by my daughter.

Doctors that are not female have no real clue what it is like for an Adolescent girl moving into woman hood of what she is going through inside of herself that they have not read out of a textbook. It takes a woman to mentor a teen girl in that arena, and for me to know my fatherly limitations on this subject.

Cigarguy · 41-45, M

@WillaKissing all of her doctor's are female just for this reason. And my partner and I are both trying to learn more about what she is going through and how to help, but there isn't a how to book for this lol.

Just last night was hard on her and she was very frustrated and embarrassed but she needed help but she didn't want help so it was tough. Quite honestly I am so thankful that she did not have a panic attack because she was getting very overwhelmed. I told her to talk to her counselor about this at her appointment and we would make an appointment for her regular doctor to try to help and see if there's something we can do to learn more to help her ease into this new part of her life.