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No more volleyball for her

My daughter asked me if she could stop playing volleyball at the end of the season and spend more time practicing the violin and piano. I'm struggling with this a little. I want her to be happy but volleyball is the only thing that she does that has her interacting with other kids besides her brothers. She's a pretty good player too. But if she loves playing the instruments more I don't want to hold her back.
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exexec · 70-79, C
My daughter was an outstanding athlete, and it was great for her to be with her teammates. My son was a musician, and it was great for him to be with fellow musicians. Both succeeded in making great friends in their activities. An orchestra is a team of sorts, and playing the violin will allow her to make friends with similar interests.
Cigarguy101 · 41-45, M
@exexec I think I'm just over thinking this lol. I just worry.
exexec · 70-79, C
@Cigarguy101 She will be fine.
SunshineGirl · 36-40, F
I think it's a good sign that she asked you, but I'm not surprised you are conflicted. Have you asked her why? Some kids are actually just plain exhausted by all the activities they pack into their busy lives.

Hopefully there will be opportunities to join a band or orchestra which should expand her social horizons 🙂
Cigarguy101 · 41-45, M
@SunshineGirl I'm going to ask her about tonight. We really didn't have much time this morning.
SunshineGirl · 36-40, F
@Cigarguy101 We have a niece with autism traits. When she wanted to give up gymnastics to focus on school exams it was painful for all of us, but she had some good reasons and it was important that we understood those and supported her.
Captain · 61-69, M
From my experience dont overthink it and let her do what she wants. What an amazing daughter that wants to play piano and violin anyway. !?
Cigarguy101 · 41-45, M
@Captain she is really good at it as well. I'm sure that's why she wants to get more practice time at both of them
Captain · 61-69, M
@Cigarguy101 Yep dont worry - just be pleased for her.
Teslin · M
From my experience, keeping her involved in athletics, or any other social activity is only positive.
Good luck and you sound like a great dad.
Cigarguy101 · 41-45, M
@Teslin thanks in the end it's about what she wants not me. I want her to be happy and do what she enjoys
HermannFegelein · 26-30, M
I bet there’s group classes for that kinda thing even if it’s not available in her school.

I’d search online for some classes.

She could perhaps do both?

If she’s still young, juggling between two activities like that can be doable.
gdon39 · 46-50, M
You'll find a way to keep her involved with peers.
Cigarguy101 · 41-45, M
@gdon39 thank you
Kstrong · 56-60, F
Dont hold her back, let her pursue what her interests are and im sure that too may change with time, events and circumstances too
Cigarguy101 · 41-45, M
@Kstrong she is doing both right now. I think she just wants to focus solely on the music
Kstrong · 56-60, F
@Cigarguy101 in seeing your age bracket, i think she still has time to discover and fine tune what to pursue
smiler2012 · 61-69
[@cigarguy101 ] you are right let her make her own mind up and she may even go back to volleyball if she loses interest in playing musical instruments
She can play the instruments much longer than volleyball.
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ShenaniganFoodie · 36-40, M
spend more time practicing the violin and piano = smart girl
dale74 · M
support them don't try to force them or they'll start a rebellion
Cigarguy101 · 41-45, M
@dale74 I have never forced my kids to do any thing. It's always their choice.
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MethDozer · M
@Cigarguy101 I didn't think you did but others here are. I wouldn't worry about. Structures activities aren't necessary for peer participation. Kids will hang out with the kids they want to hang out with Reguardless. Some kids/people aren't that concerned with it as much as others. Some would rather just read books alone or do hobbies alone. Etc, etc, etc.
Cigarguy101 · 41-45, M
@MethDozer I am just trying to do the best thing for her. I hear from her teachers at school she is a loner and they feel she needs more group activities. I heard others say she's fine let her do what makes her happy. That is what I want to do what makes her happy and what is best for her. I even thought about calling her counselor for her advice. Maybe I'm just over thinking this and she just like playing the instruments better.
MethDozer · M
@Cigarguy101 That's pretty awesome to be honest.
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Cigarguy101 · 41-45, M
@RyanVersaw wtf are even talking about
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Cigarguy101 · 41-45, M
@RyanVersaw I have never nor will I ever hit any of my children. Please keep your rude comments to yourself

 
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