So I guess my mom found out I’m on my last legs and wants to visit
I haven’t seen her in over five years. I’ve talked to her a couple times and changed my phone number after each.
31-35, F
HoeBag · 46-50, F
Hmm, I guess giving family advice is difficult, especially people who are not family.
Best I can say is - Well, MAYBE things will be patched up (I have no clue the situation) or maybe it will be yet another draining experience, which is probably what you are anticipating.
I would say that if you do visit, it couldn't be any worse than you expect, and might be better. Of course if she does visit and things do not go well, it might be even more painful.
It is not easy because I imagine at this point, you are VERY selective about how and with whom you spend your time.
As you already know, if you do accept a visit, just plan for the worst and hope for the best.
Best I can say is - Well, MAYBE things will be patched up (I have no clue the situation) or maybe it will be yet another draining experience, which is probably what you are anticipating.
I would say that if you do visit, it couldn't be any worse than you expect, and might be better. Of course if she does visit and things do not go well, it might be even more painful.
It is not easy because I imagine at this point, you are VERY selective about how and with whom you spend your time.
As you already know, if you do accept a visit, just plan for the worst and hope for the best.
MommaBear · 26-30, F
I’m just going to say this….
You don’t owe her anything.. you don’t owe her the privilege (yeah I said privilege because just because she’s your mom doesn’t give her any right to see you if you don’t want)
Don’t let her guilt trip you into letting her visit she made her bed she can deal with it.. you deserve peace and be surrounded by actual loved ones
You don’t owe her anything.. you don’t owe her the privilege (yeah I said privilege because just because she’s your mom doesn’t give her any right to see you if you don’t want)
Don’t let her guilt trip you into letting her visit she made her bed she can deal with it.. you deserve peace and be surrounded by actual loved ones
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DeWayfarer · 61-69, M
ExperienceDLT · M
Ultimately it is up to you but i will say you only have 1 mother and 1 father if it was me i would want to be at peace with them i lost my mom and i will say if i had been on bad terms with her when she passed away i wouldnt be able to live with myself
Mamapolo2016 · F
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Mamapolo2016 · F
@SwampFlower Good. You got along without her for five years. You can get along without her now. Abandonment is ocean floor neglect.
You owe her nothing.
My daughter just called. My step-granddaughter is down with violent stomach flu so we have postponed Christmas, but when it happens I’ll be there.
You owe her nothing.
My daughter just called. My step-granddaughter is down with violent stomach flu so we have postponed Christmas, but when it happens I’ll be there.
SwampFlower · 31-35, F
@Mamapolo2016 I love you. ❤
Mamapolo2016 · F
@SwampFlower I love you right back, honey.
Bang5luts · M
@SwampFlower I wish I could comfort you in some way. When you get to where ever you end up after here. Please tell whoever is running this show down here I am very displeased about this whole fiasco and expect A full refund when this ride is over. 😔 I wish I had something profound to say to you.
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SwampFlower · 31-35, F
@CountScrofula My heart is in my throat rn
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