Raising kids can be challenging at times but I enjoyed every minute of it. My daughter and I were inseparable she was my mini me. The divorce three years ago was trying and my daughter took sides.
Now I fear she is cutting me out of her life. Maybe there'll be a time when we reconnect
Aw she really is your mini me. I’m sorry you’re going through this. From my experience, make sure she knows you’re there for her when she needs you, and at the same time give her all the space. She will most likely come back to you when she’s ready.
How old is she? Lets be honest here, most kids detatch from their parents as the get older....even if they live in the same house!!! Me and my boy were so close, but by 15, his need of me had changed....obviously. we rarely saw him, off with pals and he liked his own company. Try not to fret. Its a growing up thing, it may not have anything to do with the divorce. X
Never give up even when she’s ignoring you. She’s probably watching her mum get upset and it’s confusing her feelings towards you. My last relationship ended so badly I was almost committed and it’s warped my kids perspective. Despite them being 17,19&22 none of them have had relationships 🥺
Thats your twin. Do everything you can to keep that connection that you had with her. Get it back! Kids often feel like you're abandoning them after a divorce she needs to know that you left the situation and that you didnt leave her!
I really think you should start building a bridge now, because she may think you're willingly starting to drift and let her go. Perhaps her mom planted something in her head that you can straighten out. Write her an in depth letter of how much you love her and your feelings about it hurting your heart if she won't agree to meet. Maybe y'all can possibly hang out on a camping trip where you've both connected in nature since she was a little girl. Still give her a heartfelt letter though, maybe help her obvious heavy heart. 💡
If you continue to be “the parent” there will be. Continue to reach out to her even if she’s “told you” she’s angry or upset with you. Ask about her current interests or if there’s a friend or a group of friends she likes at school or work and what it’s like to hang out with them. Ask her if she has new adventures in mind. Be curious. Hold the door for her if you get to hang out in person, and offer to carry her bags if she has more than one on her.
Hopefully it's more of a her finding her own independence as she grows older kind of detachment than anything to do with you personally. We all need our parents, she's lucky to have you. Perhaps in a half decade or so as she enters adulthood you'll reconnect.
I thought that children usually take the side of the parent of the opposite sex in a divorce. Just something I’ve observed among the people and relationships I have come in contact with.
