Father was in and out due to his own issues. Though I had many surrogates. Shared a two family house with my Grandparents growing up. My Brother and Grandfather were huge inspirations. My 4 Uncles poured into me as well. All were shining examples of manhood I carry with me to this day.
Yes, my father was very present when I was growing up....and he was very present in my life until he passed away when I was 40. He's still frequently very much in my thoughts.
Yes he was there, I have a lot of memories of him and he was doing two jobs to keep everything running.
There's always the other side though, how he was doing everything to just not be home with us, how when he was home he was either exhausted, drunk, or both.
Only every so often when i was little but i'm glad he was gone. I think i turned out better for not having him around. He keeps trying to have a "relationship" with me now that he is ill, but i'm not really interested. i DID however have other older male humans who unofficially adopted me a few times.
@meggie I would like to say "I'm sorry" , but I don't know how you feel about it. Thank you for the response either way and wish all things are good for you despite his absence.