I'm sorry you're going through this. It's clear that your father is terminal. You and the rest of your family, including your father, have to come to terms with this. This is coming. Denying it won't put it off.

The most important thing to address is what your father wants in his last days. What does he want to do or see? Are there places he would like to go while he still can? You and your family have a responsibility to make these things happen for him, at least as much as you can.

Has your father made his last will and testament? Even if you don't get a lawyer involved, you need to make sure his final wishes for the distribution of his estate, even if his estate is only, like my mom's, a couple of cabinets and a pile of old quilts.

Has your father made arrangements for a funeral or memorial service? What does he want to happen to his remains? Make sure this is done so you don't have to worry about it in the aftermath of his death.

Most importantly, spend time with him. Even if your own feelings are complex, make sure that he knows that you love him, that you value him and that you aren't going to forget him. Do what you can to help him feel happy and at peace with himself. This is not the time to be selfish or to vent old frustrations. This time is all about him and what he needs.

And also make sure, on your own time, to take care of yourself and your loved ones. Grieve. Find the path to acceptance. Your father is going to die. Accept that, find your peace with it and move on.

I'm sorry but you need to have the discussion. I've been there. He needs to be in hospice and made comfortable. Whether he is awake or not, he does hear you and know you are there. Think " what would I want if I was here?". Sending prayers.

My grandfather had that back in the late 1990s. The best thing I can say is try to make the most of the time you have left with him and focus on good memories. Hopefully that wasn’t insensitive

I'm sorry your dad is getting worse. I have COPD along with other things it's not easy to live with at all.

COPD took my father. I was living far away but spent the last few days with my parents. I'm sorry he and you are experiencing this.

my mom had copd as well as "smoker's leg" both really nasty.... sorry you're going through this.

Idk i just watched “you're not you” the other day 😳🤐 there’s just nothing you can do sometimes 😳 just accept the inevitable and be as compassionate as you can? 😳 it kills a person to see a loved one’s health in ongoing demise tho 😳

When my mom and my aunt and uncle found out that my grandfather was about to die they got everything ready. His funeral and casket. See if he was part of the military and let them know. All his stuff see who wants what so there is no fighting and arguing over his stuff

It's rough, though crackling sounds more like emphysema (the alveoli become hardened)...?

well, if he died tomorrow what is somehting that you might have wished youd said to him or done?