Would you still be around your brother despite this?

He’s your brother…don’t have to be there 24/7 but be there when it matters

Sounds like he has issues that need resolving. Although this can be a sign of other conditions that may require more specialist help. For example someone who has Autism can struggle with changes to environment or routine and this can express itself with violent behaviours. [I'm not saying that's the case with your brother but it's just to illustrate how some conditions can cause voilent behaviour]

As long as he wanted me around.
I would have some boundaries.
I might leave when he chooses to act out.
If he puts holes in my wall he'd be asked to pay for damages.
I might meet him in public places instead of in my home.
I would encourage him to get help for the self harm, but ultimately it's his choice.
If crossed over to physical violence then I would have to let go.

My ex husband had problems like this. Holes in the walls, etc., etc. I would ask him to get help...but he probably won't listen. Anger management classes are, unfortunately, usually forced on individuals like your brother, after they have been arrested.

If he is doing these things, he needs help and family turning thier back on him will not help. Try to get him to seek help and help him to find this help. People deserve a chance to live there best life.

He needs help but I would avoid honestly, as I don't know how to help. I have anger issues myself just not that strong that I would destroy things.

I would change my name and move to the other side of the world, if that were the case. Good thing I don't have a brother.

: ) I am worse. He has mellowed down a Lot and I am glad for his partner.

It is sad. I would wonder about the deeper issues

My youngest sister is the one with the temper. Unfortunately, our parents enabled her, so for a long time the rest of us avoided her. Now that our mother is ill and Pop is struggling to take care of her we’re trying to come together and help them.