Do you have a right to speak on a situation or a person you believe is taking advantage of your partner?

This could be an acquaintance, friend, colleague or family member.

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Yes, always. I've made bad decisions in my life, I keep a certain friend for this kind of detail and he always listens. I'd never consider it a "right" but a privilege.

But with partners that is more delicate, but I was never quiet with and about who I love. To the point even after we broke up and somehow I was with her and her best friend and I saw her reacting and her best friend had to agree with me, saying 'you know I always take your side, but David really has something here I agree with, and you do this.'

My ex became upset ran off... (only to the bathroom)... but I felt this figures, her friend knew it all as well, but with her friend I know I could have said almost anything to her if I needed. Then it was only about her being emotional and she was misreading a situation (work) and trying to calm her. 😔

FoxyQueen · 51-55, F

I try to just plant the seed, that way, I'm not alienating them, or making them feel bad and they know that I am someone who cares and is there to help and be supportive.

Mellowgirl · 31-35, F

@FoxyQueen ok I'm not sure I know how to do this exactly I'm always quite to the point.

FoxyQueen · 51-55, F

@Mellowgirl you can just start by asking if they are okay in their relationship and comment how you've noticed some things that on the outside look like there might be some unfair behavior. They will probably brush it off saying it is nothing or that nothing is wrong. That's fine. Just respond that if theu ever need someone to talk to, you're always available.

That's all.

Mellowgirl · 31-35, F

@FoxyQueen thank you. I will try and adopt this approach because clearly I rub people the wrong way

Fieldmaster · 46-50, M

Yes, i believe so, i think we should stand up for those who cannot speak for themsleves.

BillyMack · 46-50, M

Yes. But you gotta make sure your partner is ok with you speaking. That could sometimes cause more issues.

AngelUnforgiven · 51-55, F

Hell yes! I'm very protective of my baby

Mellowgirl · 31-35, F

@AngelUnforgiven are you quite the cut to the chase type of person or do you find yourself approaching with more delicate language to tackle these situations?

LordShadowfire · 46-50, M

Sure you do.

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