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Would you contact friend yet, or no?

I have a good friend I have not seen in 32 years..I moved from our inner city neighborhood to an outskirt town and since then, we lost touch. She was my best friend ages 4-11. We did everything together!! She found me on FB several years ago and asked to meet up but I have such social anxiety I have not yet. I feel badly and have not told her the true reason.
I feel very vulnerable telling people of my disorder but I'm debating doing so with her. I heart her posts on FB but she never likes mine really. I think she believes I just don't WANT to meet and that's not it at all.


I bumped into her the other day at a store!! We now live closer and I knew it was her. I had a mask on and was pushing my sister in a wheelchair so not sure if she recognized me or not. I didn't say anything, and neither did she. Should I message her saying I saw her and maybe also tell about my anxiety? Or let it go until I am ready to meet up?
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Will you ever be more ready?
If not, I don't see what you have to lose, and I would definitely reach out.
My best and closest friend from high school and I have been in touch a few times over the years, but we don't seem to click anymore and have not resumed any closeness. On the other hand a friend from my first couple of years of elementary school recently rediscovered me (after like 55 years!!) and we are friends again. You never know.
Coralmist · 41-45, F
@ThePatientAnarchist I still have anxiety on meeting but, I'm working through it in therapy. I had a friend ditch me recently after years of friendship because I was living at home so could never invite her over into a volatile environment. I fear this friend could ditch me too...she's doing a lot better than me in life.
My anxiety is that I'm not enough even as a friend. But I never had anxiety years ago in my 20s , despite my living or financial situation I was a really good friend. I just need to get back to that mindset. That's really great you still click with your old friend!!
OscarTurtle · 61-69, M
Invite her over to a park near you. Less pressure maybe? I’ve reconnected with several old friend over Fb and it’s been really good.
Coralmist · 41-45, F
@OscarTurtle True an outside spot might be better than me being face to face, nervous. Maybe if I see any fairs soon too. I'll think about that, ty🦋
OscarTurtle · 61-69, M
@Coralmist you are welcome young lady. On your turf you mught feel more at ease. I’m here if you need a shoulder.
akindheart · 61-69, F
yes notify her of the anxiety and try to rekindle the friendship. i had a friend back in the 90's. she moved out and never continued contact. i googled and found her in Oregon. I wrote her and never heard back but i sure tried.
Tumbleweed · F
Yes, love, I think you should tell her. She may feel as if you blew her off and her feelings may be hurt. If she doesn't come around after that, rhen at least you can rest easy knowing you tried.
I think you should contact her. Tell her about your anxieties. She should understand. If she doesn't, you now know.
Lilymoon · F
I wouldn't confide your anxiety to her but just call her on the phone, tell her you've been busy.
Achelois · F
Aw you should message her and tell her the truth, she could be hurt that you didn’t take the chance to meet up.

Do it 😊✨
samueltyler2 · 80-89, M
Reach out, definitely.
Jenny1234 · 56-60, F
Yes I would
Coralmist · 41-45, F
@Jenny1234 And you'd share the anxiety aspect?
Jenny1234 · 56-60, F
@Coralmist definitely
geminirising · MNew
If he/she is open to it, I would
Banksy83 · 41-45, M
Just leave it till your ready.
If she wants to meet I say go for it.
@Coralmist (((((HUGS))))) You're so veey welcome Dearest Friend 😊🤗❤
Coralmist · 41-45, F
@Coralmist 😊🤗❤🌷

 
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