Going through a major life lesson and need your thoughts.
It's 3:52 AM and I just woke and saw that jessica called and left a voice mail. Should I ignore it? I had my ringer off. I do not want to deal with her stuff. Shes a 32 year old alcoholic that is the daughter of a friend that died of cancer. She just got out of detox again. Last time she did this she was in the ER and it ended up.with letting her stay here a couple days while i was out of town. She snuck in vodka. By the time i got back and her into a detox she had a bac of 2.63 and had made a mess of the house.
So this time I used the bathroom. Going to try to go back to sleep. This is hard to ignor what I'm sure it is an existential crisis call for help but she needs to go through it without me interfering. Right? I need to talk to pastor Tania I think. There is no parable about what to do in these cases. How does one be a good friend, neighbor, or parent by doing nothing? By ignoring them and their suffering? We give aid to Africa but they keep having kids that suffer so should we stop there too?
I have a close friend that lives overseas that cannot get a job that pays enough to feed his mother and sister so they may need to become a prostitute?
We are supposed to help till it hurts, but when does helping hurt them more than you? What if helping someone else hurts others around you? Like i could marry the friend overseas but that would devestate my gf here. This is a major life lesson. I know there are boundaries but this is tough stuff to live with.
If you are a ship at sea and get a mayday you are required to aid them, but if you are in a crowded lifeboat toy have to beat off the others still in the water.
So this time I used the bathroom. Going to try to go back to sleep. This is hard to ignor what I'm sure it is an existential crisis call for help but she needs to go through it without me interfering. Right? I need to talk to pastor Tania I think. There is no parable about what to do in these cases. How does one be a good friend, neighbor, or parent by doing nothing? By ignoring them and their suffering? We give aid to Africa but they keep having kids that suffer so should we stop there too?
I have a close friend that lives overseas that cannot get a job that pays enough to feed his mother and sister so they may need to become a prostitute?
We are supposed to help till it hurts, but when does helping hurt them more than you? What if helping someone else hurts others around you? Like i could marry the friend overseas but that would devestate my gf here. This is a major life lesson. I know there are boundaries but this is tough stuff to live with.
If you are a ship at sea and get a mayday you are required to aid them, but if you are in a crowded lifeboat toy have to beat off the others still in the water.
