1) Pressure to become too serious too fast.

2) Controlling behavior, lacking trust in you and respect for you. Gets upset if you are five minutes late, wants to know where you are and who you’re with at all times or insists on knowing your phone password before you’re ready to share it.

3) You don’t feel like you can be fully yourself. As a relationship progresses, you should feel more comfortable with your partner and share more of yourself. It’s a red flag if you either don’t feel increasingly safe to share your experiences, interests, thoughts, and feelings or you feel judged or criticized when you do and begin to hide or suffocate parts of yourself that your partner disapproves of.

4) Difficulty sharing feelings. Sharing our feelings is the root of intimacy. If either one or both of you are unable to identify and appropriately express your feelings, communication and intimacy will always be challenging.

4) You’re [i]conceding[/i] rather than compromising or finding solutions that work equally well for both.

5) Inability to resolve conflicts. You have recurring arguments that are never resolved, your partner refuses to discuss certain issues or acknowledge your concerns.

6) Your friends and family members have expressed concerns about your partner or relationship. Certainly, other people’s opinions of your choice of partner aren’t the end all be all. However, sometimes they notice red flags that you yourself can’t see. It’s worth considering their opinions, especially if multiple people who you respect have expressed concern.

7) Giving up your friends, interests, or goals. A relationship should add depth and joy to your life; it should make you feel more alive – more yourself. It shouldn’t diminish who you are and what’s important to you. And while it’s normal to spend a lot of time with a new partner at the beginning stage of a relationship (and consequently less time with friends or family), it’s a red flag if you feel like your partner would be angry, jealous, or critical if you spent time with your friends and family. Giving up things that were once important is another red flag.

8) You have evidence that your partner lies or deceives you about things. Lies may be outright, or distortions, exaggerations, minimisations or omissions - deliberately creating false impressions. Stealing, manipulating.

9) Abuse of any kind (emotional, verbal, physical, sexual, financial, gaslighting).

10) You have increased symptoms of mental or physical ill health. Symptoms of stress, depression, and anxiety show up in your body, thoughts and feelings. Consider whether new or worsening health problems, increasing feelings of anger, resentment, fear, and stress may be related to your relationship.

Possessiveness, unreasonable jealousy, rage, inability to talk about anything but themselves..that kinda stuff

Not toxic, as such, but a little uncomfortable...Red flags? Essentially she wanted to [i]be[/i] me, so she quit her job to become a hooker, took up smoking and doing drugs (which I did do at the time..) too....

Obsessed wasn't quite the word that I looking for....

She's with my sister and they [i]seem[/i] in love, but, y'know, I do worry that it's all to be closer to me....

Is that my ego talking? I'm not sure...

SJD xx

I've not dated anyone toxic but lived with v toxic people.

They constantly pull you down...and give you bad advice. They're jealous of you...and you'll find it hard to believe, coz there really is no reason.

He got jealous of a [b]celebrity[/b] crush. 🙄
Totally dumb, because you know that would never happen ffs!

Your gut feeling telling you that something isnt right. Oh and youre not overthinking, okay? What you feel is valid and trust it.

Inability to empathise, blaming you for things outside of your control, putting you down when you try do something nice for them

he didn't like me doing anything without him

Gas lighting
Emotional abuse

A narcissistic, greedy, manipulative person. Someone who makes excuses and lie to people. Someone who puts the blame on others, someone who steals your money.

I once married someone toxic and made people believe that he is rich, because I am kind in heart, but he left me when I was baring his daughter, and never asked about me, just like any of the guys that I cared for giving them a chance after my ex, and they never worked hard to make me believe that they wanted me. Unlike my recent husband, who is the father of my two amazing children that are like twins, only 1 year difference between them.

Lying, talking down to me, withholding affection and emotional support, hot and cold emotions, passive aggression, just being emotionally abusive in general.

his snapchat score would go up like 400 points a day. who tf would be snapping him that much LMAOO i was stupid

Lying

All-consuming control issues.

Didn’t understand that I wasn’t comfortable being intimate.
Straight up told me I would be alone for ever.

Lying, narcissistic behavior, always causing emotional pain.

The being used as an atm.

How they would insult me & then twist it into my perception of what they said as if it wasn’t what they meant. It was enough to make me feel crazy.

Immediate jealousy and possessiveness; attempts to control. I’m really alert to that now.