Being single For the first time in my life I've been single for over a year. I've decided I...

That's a very smart decision and a wise one. When my husband died in 2005, I've been alone since, and it was an adjustment of course, like anything else, but I enjoy being alone. I do enjoy my own company. No one to answer to, or asked when will you be back and what time or whatever. Haha

There are times especially in fall, though, that gets me the most, when I would love nothing more than to have a male companion come along to take the long drives I so used to go on and enjoy, to see the beautiful scenery, so I do miss that very much. It just seems like more fun, to me, to be able to point things out, you know, and say "Hey... look at that! Isn't that beautiful?" Oh I miss that so much, sharing the beautiful things God made in this world, with someone.

You adjust, and I think you will like it. You're listening to your heart and that's so important. You are in tune with your body and mind and that's a good thing.

zonavar68 · 56-60, M

Being single is definitely a mindset that societal pressures try to condition us into thinking of as being 'bad' and 'undesirable' but in reality it's powerful and inspiring. If/when you do meet the right person being strong in singlesness helps you appreciate the nice things about companionship more because they have more value.

It's winter here now in Oz with temps at night down around 0 C here already, but I just rug up more.

PinkMoon · 26-30, F

Being single for over a year and wanting to continue it is such a huge sign of positive growth in your life. I hope that you are very proud of yourself. Prioritizing yourself and your own mental health as opposed to sacrificing yourself to a relationship is incredible! For you to have been single for this long means that you have found a way to give yourself something you were seeking in relationships. That's powerful!

Steve42 · 56-60, M

I disagree. It's been 11 years since I got separated and divorced. I find that God is still with me all the time and I am never alone. Less drama to boot.

BiasForAction · M

Agree with you on the power of sunshine. And I think should I find myself single I would want to do as you are doing, bravo!

Hinckley ·

I like that. To me, being alone doesn't mean lonely. Discover the person within and learn to love her.

cuteblondegreyguy · 56-60, M

I understand. Perhaps you WILL find that "special gentleman" someday-one who is financially secure, friendly, even tempered, kind, considerate, supportive, a good/active listener.

Additionally-one who CLEARLY knows that "no" means "no."

Sroonaka616 · 31-35, M

I understand the cold loney nights and I do always look forward to the bright summers. I know that my death will be in a harsh winter. I find travelling to warmer climates helps with the winters. But there is always a light in the darkness.

WillaKissing · 56-60, M

Just remember to take your time, and do not just jump into a relationship again when the fall rolls around looking for a guy to put your cold feet on! LOL

Take your time, I have, and I quite got used to being alone and I love it.

Rudboy41 · 41-45, M

The only danger i found of being single is that you fall into the trap of dropping your standards after a while because you couldn't tolerate the loneliness. So spend time getting to understand and know your worth so you don't get tempted to "sell cheap" again.