You don't have to be with anyone. It is perfectly possible to be alone without being lonely. But you should get out if only to get some fresh air and exercise.

Grief can take a long time to wear off, indeed it never does wear off entirely. For the first year after my wife died I cried every day. Now nearly eight years later I often go several days without consciously thinking of her and then some random event, sight, sound, scent, etc., will remind me. Then I have a few moments of loss but life must go on, especially if you have other relatives and friends.

One day you might meet another person you want to spend your life with, but it's not compulsory to have a long term living together relationship so don't feel pressured.

I'm very sorry for your loss. Please remember that there's no right or wrong way to grieve. No rules. So please don't judge yourself harshly for feeling any certain way. It is what it is, and it can't be rushed and it's okay to work it out in your own way. I wouldn't give up on finding a friend to just be a friend, if you know what I mean, and I'm sure you do, because you said that last lady started having feelings for you, so you cut that relationship off. Know that not every woman will go against your boundaries, and I'm thinking maybe you could find a nice lady friend just to go out with once in awhile when you feel up to it or to just talk on the phone and talk things out when you need someone to talk to. Friends don't mind hearing what's on your mind, even here, if you are grieving or whatever. That's what friends do and why we are here for you, it's not a burden on us. Not when you care about someone, so please just think about that. You'll probably go through a plethora of emotions, so just go with the flow each day, and let it be okay. You don't have to rush anything nor act a certain way. Grief is a variety of feelings. Some days will feel different from others. Just let them be what they want to be. It's okay to feel that way. If you feel like you need to stay in your room then stay in your room and not judge yourself for it or feel badly about it. That's just what you need to do to feel okay that day and that's perfectly fine. And one last thing. You said you don't want to be responsible for someone else's happiness. A mature lady won't expect you to be her everything or reason for happiness. That's a lot to put on someone and a secure woman won't feel that her happiness depends on someone else. Thanks for allowing us to share with you today. I hope you feel so much better tomorrow.

I'm so sorry. Grief is such a burden. You can't be with someone or alone. I only hope you are not facing it all alone, that you have someone, a friend or family, who you can just express all you need.

I'm sorry you're going through this and it absolutely sucks.

Grief counselling is definitely something to look in to - it doesn't stop you feeling the pain, but it does teach you ways to deal with it in a more healthy way and gives you a safe space for you to admit how you feel to someone, so it doesn't just sit inside and fester.

Good luck and I wish you all the best for getting through this to a better place where you can remember her and smile x

You seem very vulnerable at the moment so perhaps you're right stay at home. When ready to go out a bit there are places you can go to and still be alone: park, garden, restaurant, cafe, museum. Make sure it's a safe environment, no usual rude people and hardly any crime. If you feel uncomfortable at any point, then go back home.

It’s been said that you should take a minimum of one month for every year you were married to be with just yourself. It’s a readjustment period that is necessary to knowing yourself again.

I am sorry for your loss. Was it an unexpected accident? Sometimes the hardest is when someone is taken quickly and unexpectedly, with no chance to say good-bye....

You're not responsible for anybody else's happiness but your own.
I think you have to get there and own it before looking at trying to make someone else happy

I’ve been where you are. Tragically, I got married again. DO NOT GET MARRIED!!!! Trust me, there’s nothing in it for men at this age.

I’m sorry about that ❤‍🩹 stay strong bro 🙏🏻

I lost my partner two years ago. I still could not be with someone else. I have no desire to be with anyone.

Thank you for your honesty my friend.

Take up fishing or rambling ,good luck.

Sorry to hear that

There's no time to these things. Just find joy in other things.

Who’s trying to make you be with someone else already when it’s hardly a year? 😏