I'm very sorry for your loss. Please remember that there's no right or wrong way to grieve. No rules. So please don't judge yourself harshly for feeling any certain way. It is what it is, and it can't be rushed and it's okay to work it out in your own way. I wouldn't give up on finding a friend to just be a friend, if you know what I mean, and I'm sure you do, because you said that last lady started having feelings for you, so you cut that relationship off. Know that not every woman will go against your boundaries, and I'm thinking maybe you could find a nice lady friend just to go out with once in awhile when you feel up to it or to just talk on the phone and talk things out when you need someone to talk to. Friends don't mind hearing what's on your mind, even here, if you are grieving or whatever. That's what friends do and why we are here for you, it's not a burden on us. Not when you care about someone, so please just think about that. You'll probably go through a plethora of emotions, so just go with the flow each day, and let it be okay. You don't have to rush anything nor act a certain way. Grief is a variety of feelings. Some days will feel different from others. Just let them be what they want to be. It's okay to feel that way. If you feel like you need to stay in your room then stay in your room and not judge yourself for it or feel badly about it. That's just what you need to do to feel okay that day and that's perfectly fine. And one last thing. You said you don't want to be responsible for someone else's happiness. A mature lady won't expect you to be her everything or reason for happiness. That's a lot to put on someone and a secure woman won't feel that her happiness depends on someone else. Thanks for allowing us to share with you today. I hope you feel so much better tomorrow.
