How do I get more people to come to the parties I throw? How do I get more people to come? I...

Birthday parties are tricky. If you are going to go, you have to bring a present, which a lot of people don't want to make the time to buy, so they make excuses not to come. It isn't really about you personally as they would act this same way with any party they were invited to.
A lot of people prefer their privacy I guess.
Sorry they didn't show up though, that does hurt feelings. I had the same thing happen to one of my parties once, but I had fun anyways.

zonavar68 · 56-60, M

To start with, you're not Emma Watson. 8-)

What sort of birthday party are you trying to throw? An informal one maybe over dinner? A more formal sort dinner party?

Was the parties you put on appropriate to the demographic mix of the people you'd invite (presumably friends + family), and appealing?

Really sorry to hear your desires to be a really social host aren't working. I've never put on any sort of social event for friends because I don't really have friends. When my 8 y/o daughter was 7 I had a big birthday party for her at a kids play centre, but could never host any sort of large party at my house.

Happy birthday!

smileylovesgaming · 31-35, FVIP

Kind of sounds like u did everything right u planned it for two months. The people that just for got they never planned to go. Not that hard to schedule a birthday party in the calendar.

Not sure if these was high school friends u tried to get together. Friend's we had back then are not really are our friends in adulthood. We go to college and get married and have kid's and work full time. We usually move past that part of our lives and forget the people we use to know.

Picklebobble2 · 61-69, M

Impossible to tell whether they rejected you personally or are maybe fairweather associations rather than what you could really call friends.

And if you didn't get apologise from non attendees then I doubt they're in the friends category in the first place.

Sorry it was such a disappointment.
But at least for future reference you now know to treat yourself rather than try and cater to others.

lpthehermit · 56-60, M

i feel your pain. my last celebration was 1984. invite someone with a magnetic personality who can naturally attract people. make it a theme costume party??

Prince0217 · M

Belated Birthday wishes !
How strong are your social bonds? If the bonds are weak the interest could be weak.

HumanEarth · F

In my 20s I would say bring your own food. I have booze weed and music covered.

Never had a problem, cops even showed up a few times

Pretzel · 70-79, M

have you had a non-birthday get together and they did the same thing?

just curious if this was just a one off.

maybe you need better friends?

RedBaron · M

Invite them to dinner at a restaurant - it doesn’t have to be an expensive one - and make it your treat.

Jlhzfromep · M

find new friends

wudifu · 46-50, M

Free alcohol

WifeTanya · 56-60, C

So you are single yet it was you and your husband?

WoWgirll · 36-40, F

Know more people

H1raeth · 36-40, M

invite the internet

whowasthatmaskedman · 70-79, M

1. Hold the party on a cruise ship.
2. Announce "Meet. *Fill in name of local celebrity)
3 Offer to send Limos for pick up and drop off.
4. Hold it on a Party Bus..

romell · 51-55, M

Something wrong with your basic relationship..else they would have come in larger numbers

GoFish ·

They probably thought you expected gifts

minoltaguy · 51-55, M

It helps if you don't throw people.🤣