I’m really sorry you’re going through this. Bereavement can knock the wind out of you in ways people don’t warn you about — not just the sadness, but the anger, the helplessness, the way other people’s grief collides with yours. That stuff is heavy. You’re not weak for finding it hard. You’re human.
[@earthingwise] 🤔councilling is not be knocked when we lost our dad suddenly in 2014 one of my sisters and i took it very badly . both of went to pieces after his death and needed grief councilling . for me it did actually helped so in your case if you still are effected by your loss it maybe worth trying this avenue
A very recent odd experience. I thought I was dealing/coping with the pain of having to place my wife and lifelong partner in care a year ago. Keeping busy and dealing with my own issues.. Then I stumbled on a streaming TV show called "Zoes Extraordinary Playlist". It only ran two seasons, and the core is that a girl starts hearing peoples true feelings they are hiding as popular songs they are singing just for her. (Yes. Corny I know) But the damned thing got under my guard. I was following along with all the issues (as you do) when this person would break into a song I knew well defining a problem I could relate to and suddenly I am crying my eyes out.. I was horrified.. And it happened again.. and again. Some of issues were relatable and I fell right into it.. The thing is, it was cathartic. I feel purged of a lot of stuff I didnt know I was storing up.. I mentioned it to my daughter later and she is also into it now. Maybe its just us and the particular issues we faced. But for what its worth.. It helped. (PS. Series 1 only,, Series 2 became just a bunch of song and dance numbers)😷
@ninalanyon Yes.. I had more or less decided that. But once I get the body right I will take a couple of weeks trial run to see if I can enjoy solo travelling. If that pans out I will take off around May I think, to time with the better weather up north..😷
@whowasthatmaskedman I'll be heading for the UK at a similar time in the hope that this year I'll have better weather. Last year my sons kept sending me email about sunshine and heat waves when I had rain and 20 C!
@ninalanyon Here Summer gives us heat down south with tropical humidy, rain and monsoons up north. So North is for our Winter. When its usually 24 to 29 C and fine. I know and love Far north Qld. Port Douglas is the stepping off point for heaven..So I will probably stop there a while..
I've taken classes emotions are what you allow your feelings to become if you can distract yourself within the first minute you can control your emotion, but if you do nothing it will come out.
I've learned that when you have negative emotions and want to do negative things, it's better to just not act. Be a lazy slob until you feel better and have good ideas. I know, groundbreaking, but when you're feeling negative every negative idea sounds great, so you have to identify it despite your emotions. I've gotten good at that.
