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What a night

So I wasn't in the mood for conflict or anything tonight, I needed to be in the right frame of mind for the game tonight so I asked Joel to act like we never seen the email. Not to say a word. He reluctantly agreed. I feel like he was ready to go off on them but since it was about me he agreed.

We get there and take our seats. We always sit in the back so I can get up and leave if I need to.

I'm not sure what you would call her maybe the main sponsor, counselor, leader, she got up and greeted everyone. Then she apologized saying that an email was sent out that shouldn't have been. She went on to say that everyone in this group is free to choose when and how they want to share and should never be pressured into doing it when they're not ready. She then asked who wanted to share.

Neither one of us shared that night. I wasn't ready and I knew Joel was still upset about the email.

After the meeting ended we planned on leaving pretty quick. We had a house full of kids excited about the Royals game. But before we could leave the speaker came over to us. She is a sweet lady but comes off as one of those who try way to hard to let you know they are ok with your way of life. She apologized again, saying that email never should of been sent out. Letting us know the person who wrote it was trying to be funny and encouraging.

Joel still seemed upset by this.

He said I hope this doesn't happen again because everyone here has many struggles and we are trying to find a way to deal with it. Adding pressure to get someone to share a painful experience when they aren't ready isn't helpful, and could hurt their recovery. This is supposed to be a safe place for people to heal, learn and share on their own schedule. Calling someone out in a email blast is very unprofessional. It could set them back.

She wasn't expecting that. She seemed to be lost for words.

Again I am so sorry. I hope you come back.

I am the one that wanted to come back. He was coming to support me. And to see someone, probably you trying to get be cute in a email trying to pressure him into sharing when you have no idea what he's dealing with is unprofessional. You should really take more pride in your emails when you are dealing with people who are trying to help themselves and are struggling. That's why we are all here.

Now she is speechless. Pretty much everyone in the room is watching

He turns to me and says let's go home and watch the baseball game.

So we leave.

I have never had someone speak up for me like that, defend me like that. It felt amazing.

It rained most of the night so we had to move our baseball party inside. Jac didn't get his first hit but we made a great comeback and won tonight.

I don't know who I got so lucky to find him. But I am so thankful that I did.
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Gusman · 61-69, M
I am glad both of you spoke up.
Things should not be left unsaid as all that does is set people back, months, even years.
At least think about going back, some good will come from your counseling sessions
You have support, something that has been missing all your life
The night ended well, what with your side having a victory.
I’m happy for you hon x I’m glad he defended you. You picked a good one.
Cigarguy101 · 41-45, M
@MyMonstersAreReal thanks I don't know how it happened and I really don't deserve him
@Cigarguy101 yes you do. I don’t know you much but I see you’re a good person and deserve good
Things I know it’s hard to think you don’t because our minds like to play tricks on us from time to time. But you do deserve this wonderful man in your life.
4meAndyou · F
THAT was very kind of Joel. You have a loving warrior in your corner.
Cigarguy101 · 41-45, M
@4meAndyou I do lol I don't deserve him
4meAndyou · F
@Cigarguy101 You TOTALLY deserve him!
Poppies · 61-69, F
I wonder what made her decide to apologize for that email right from the top. Someone probably told her that it was inappropriate.
Cigarguy101 · 41-45, M
@Poppies my gut tells me it was Joel. He was very upset about it and he didn't hide it well. But after he said his peace there he was fine. We had a great time watching the game with everyone.

 
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