The New Dating Scene - Getting a call from the Police

He obviously didn’t pick up on her social clues if she called the police. I wouldn’t go back to that store or acknowledge her in public if I saw her again. I wouldn’t give it another thought or have concerns or talk about it with anyone. I’d just move on.

Sounds excessive to call the police...geesh. he mentioned coffee or a drink. It doesn't sound like harassment.
I wonder if men are now afraid to even ask a woman out (in general) now? All I ever hear is how men bug women all the time but is that really true offline? I don't notice it personally.

I think women should be able to work without random men hitting on them, it's not like this was a social situation so I do think it's inappropriate for him to be giving her his number.

It's interesting. I knew someone who tries to ask out a waitress and ran into the same situation.

I've never felt like I needed to call the police by a stranger offering me a date. I just politely say something like: "no, thank you. But I appreciate it. Good luck out there"

I take it as a good sign of character if someone offers a date. Generally such men are more accepting of whatever answer you give.
Generally People asking or pestering tend to have more adverse or extreme reactions. :/

Maybe he came off creepy or she is easily scared and he got unlucky here. Also it can be a very weird dynamic when it's during an customer/client and employee exchange. Navigating that can feel awkward and a little claustrophobic...because of the setting. Women get a lot of crap at the workplace sometimes and you can feel trapped between your job and standing up for yourself and speaking your mind.
Confrontation can be extra scary for some people if it could potentially effect their job in some manner. So some woman would rather have someone else either a coworker or in this case police talk to the person for them.

She must have felt scared enough to call the police, rather then say something in person. Idk why, someone would have to ask her why. Maybe she's had very bad experiences. 🤷🏻‍♀️

If he was my work friend, I'd tell him that I don't think he did anything wrong. But maybe he'd have more luck in a different setting or with a different person. 🤷🏻‍♀️

He should look for more obvious signs that the person is interested. Being nice to people is part of retail people’s job experience, and I feel for women in the field, same for women in the service industry.

However, unless there’s more to the story, referring it to the police is not really justifiable.

Why would a 40 year old be hitting on a 20 year old. That is just creepy

If they got along fine and exchanged numbers, that’s totally cool despite the big age gap. Love is love. I’m a straight dude and I think some women 10-20 years older than me are hot af. Heck, some 60s and 70s still got it. Age isn’t really the issue here, although it may seem as predatory in this case.

However, this guy gave her a piece of paper, and she could just decline it right there. Calling the police is excessive unless he’s not taking no for an answer.

If that behavior (handing someone your card,saying maybe we'll meet) gets a call from the cops...I'm going to become a monk

Since MeToo, we've seen guys getting fired for simply complimenting a woman on her appearance or politely asking her out. If you're being a creep and not taking no for an answer then you deserve what you get but how will the human race continue to procreate if women call the police simply for being asked? Or is there more to the story?

Crazy. But lucky. Heaven only knows what she might have accused him of if they'd actually gone out.

I wonder if she's dating a police officer.

Sounds like we might not be getting the whole story.

Probably the age difference and she was at work.

And that’s why I don’t talk to people. 😂

I don’t know. These are weird times. I wouldn’t have the police make a phone call on my behalf probably (my guess is if they are genuinely a threat then the phone call wouldn’t make a difference), but in a weird way I get it. There’s a disturbing amount of guys out there these days who are really low-key pissed off they’re not entitled to as much as they used to be.

😂 oops

Situations like that are why I don't even try to flirt with anyone anymore. Hell, if you're even remotely polite people act like you just invited them to your home that just happens to be an abandoned warehouse with a shallowly dug grave behind it.

I was in my 40s when I began dating my current gf, who was in her 20s. It's nobody's business.

People need to calm down. I can't believe the cops have time for that sort of thing, unless there's something about the story we don't know

Tbh same. Middle aged men are creepy.

It's ridiculous. Guy probably wants to date closer to his age group as it seems there is quite a generation gap here.

That's excessive, she could just say no thank you