The New Dating Scene - Getting a call from the Police

What do you think of this? My wife's work friend gave a retail employee at Boathouse (clothing store) his number after a couple of visits with his daughter. He just said, "if you want to have a coffee or a drink sometime, give me a call". He is 40 and he figured this employee was in her late 20's due to her looks and the fact that she was working a lunch shift (not in high school or anything).

Later that evening, he got a call from the police telling him that he made her feel uncomfortable and try to stay away from her going forward.

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ravenwind43 · 51-55, F

Sounds excessive to call the police...geesh. he mentioned coffee or a drink. It doesn't sound like harassment.
I wonder if men are now afraid to even ask a woman out (in general) now? All I ever hear is how men bug women all the time but is that really true offline? I don't notice it personally.

Livingwell · 61-69, M

@ravenwind43 You would be correct. Men are afraid to reach out because there are so many over reactive people. Just above, it was termed as creepy for reaching out. The same people complain they can't find a "good" man. 🤷🏻‍♂️

pdockal · 56-60, M

@ravenwind43

Always have to be careful but in this climate it's worse then ever

ravenwind43 · 51-55, F

@Livingwell It puts a woman (I mean me lol) in a bad position. If no one asks me out I go dateless or I ask and then potentially get labeled as an "easy lay" (also not the case) so it looks like knitting and cats for me 😆

pdockal · 56-60, M

@ravenwind43

Unfortunately this is what society has done

ravenwind43 · 51-55, F

@pdockal I know. It's very disheartening!

pdockal · 56-60, M

@ravenwind43

Don't blame us
We're caught in the middle

Livingwell · 61-69, M

@ravenwind43 In all honesty, it's not fair for for women like you to bear the brunt of a few women who can't play nice with others. Yes, there are jerk men that make things uncomfortable. But the "me too" group has emerged and seem to manufacture conflicts that don't exist or can be easily solved by a "no thank you!". Some of us (women and men) genuinely want a loving nurturing relationship. But these roadblocks are real.

ravenwind43 · 51-55, F

@pdockal It's not about blame...it's just unfortunately the way things have become and it's a shame.

ravenwind43 · 51-55, F

@Livingwell Yea.....the #metoo movement plays a big role in it.

pdockal · 56-60, M

@ravenwind43

Somebody is to blame
But i don't want the crap of i give my OPINION