The New Dating Scene - Getting a call from the Police

What do you think of this? My wife's work friend gave a retail employee at Boathouse (clothing store) his number after a couple of visits with his daughter. He just said, "if you want to have a coffee or a drink sometime, give me a call". He is 40 and he figured this employee was in her late 20's due to her looks and the fact that she was working a lunch shift (not in high school or anything).

Later that evening, he got a call from the police telling him that he made her feel uncomfortable and try to stay away from her going forward.

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spjennifer · 61-69, T

Since MeToo, we've seen guys getting fired for simply complimenting a woman on her appearance or politely asking her out. If you're being a creep and not taking no for an answer then you deserve what you get but how will the human race continue to procreate if women call the police simply for being asked? Or is there more to the story?

666Maggotz · F

@spjennifer how about just leave women alone when we are working? We have no choice but to be nice to you on the clock.

JimboSaturn · 56-60, M

@666Maggotz Let's get this straight, this was not me.

666Maggotz · F

@JimboSaturn I know. Your friend. I just know what it’s like to be in her situation and it makes my blood boil for her. You have no idea if she has male related trauma (I do), or the kind of customers she has to deal with on the daily. We get stalkers. It’s best for us to play it safe than get SA’d walking to our car.

spjennifer · 61-69, T

@666Maggotz Sorry but the same could be said for women asking men out. I wasn't taking any sides, just addressing the OP's statement which was specific to male on female in the workplace. If it was just someone asking someone else for a date politely, that's not SA and there's still no reason to call the cops on them, a polite no thanks should be sufficient.

666Maggotz · F

@spjennifer No one should ask anyone out when they are a captive audience. Also, women aren’t known for being violent towards men when they are rejected. I seen male customers stalk female employees. One of my friends was SA’d once walking to her car. Men have a reputation for being predatory towards young women. You can’t say the same for women at all.

It’s better to be safe than sorry. There is no way of knowing which one are going to hurt you. That’s why you leave people alone at work.

spjennifer · 61-69, T

@666Maggotz Statistics show that 43% of marriages started from workplace romances, no mention of how many of those ended in divorce but with that many, there must be something to it. I've never personally engaged in it but I know it happens a lot.

666Maggotz · F

@spjennifer between coworkers, who you can report to HR and are equals to. Not customers/clients.