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The New Dating Scene - Getting a call from the Police

What do you think of this? My wife's work friend gave a retail employee at Boathouse (clothing store) his number after a couple of visits with his daughter. He just said, "if you want to have a coffee or a drink sometime, give me a call". He is 40 and he figured this employee was in her late 20's due to her looks and the fact that she was working a lunch shift (not in high school or anything).

Later that evening, he got a call from the police telling him that he made her feel uncomfortable and try to stay away from her going forward.
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Scribbles · 36-40, F
It's interesting. I knew someone who tries to ask out a waitress and ran into the same situation.

I've never felt like I needed to call the police by a stranger offering me a date. I just politely say something like: "no, thank you. But I appreciate it. Good luck out there"

I take it as a good sign of character if someone offers a date. Generally such men are more accepting of whatever answer you give.
Generally People asking or pestering tend to have more adverse or extreme reactions. :/

Maybe he came off creepy or she is easily scared and he got unlucky here. Also it can be a very weird dynamic when it's during an customer/client and employee exchange. Navigating that can feel awkward and a little claustrophobic...because of the setting. Women get a lot of crap at the workplace sometimes and you can feel trapped between your job and standing up for yourself and speaking your mind.
Confrontation can be extra scary for some people if it could potentially effect their job in some manner. So some woman would rather have someone else either a coworker or in this case police talk to the person for them.

She must have felt scared enough to call the police, rather then say something in person. Idk why, someone would have to ask her why. Maybe she's had very bad experiences. 🤷🏻‍♀️

If he was my work friend, I'd tell him that I don't think he did anything wrong. But maybe he'd have more luck in a different setting or with a different person. 🤷🏻‍♀️
JimboSaturn · 56-60, M
@Scribbles Yourself and others have provided me with an excellent alternative viewpoint! Thanks!