I don't know if i should ask?!

@zonavar68 oh i have been burned jumping in too fast so was fine initially nothing happened but after 5 dates & he hasn't implied anything... not even just being friends 1st which i find odd.... i've put my hand on his arm briefly etc but no response

@BondGirl84 I think it's clear that He's Just Not Into You. Sadly. Do what's right for you and end it if you feel there's not even a friend connection building.

@zonavar68 I agree to be friends FIRST, go slow get to actually know each other a bit. It seems thst guys may think thats a friend zoned situation, where many times its not. It seems guys just want to go right to physical relationship..so thanks for saying that.

@caccoon i have been chatting to other guys but this one i kinda see something more meaningful but yea the lack of any form of physical stuff is weird.... or any conversation about it.... actually think its the 1st time i didn't care! Lol 😆 weird not having the expectation but initially thought that was a gud thing! Haha

@BondGirl84 Well, maybe it's not the right time for him or something! Anyway I hope you find something fulfilling 😊

@caccoon thank u! 😊

@Starchild1983 have been chatting to other guys & still in contact with an old friend with benefits... did think tho, yea just wait for his text... in work 2moro anyway so will be distracted haha

@BondGirl84 I appreciate that he does need to decompress. & When two adults male & female are attracted to each other & in each others company.

Their preferred choice of decompression, is using the opportunity to cuddle, kiss, and so much more .

When two grown adults ..seek each other out as a potential match on a dating site , time & time again and this choice of decompression.. consistently never happens . Its because one or both of the pairing is not sexually attracted to the other

In this case ..you have made it clear to us that you very much are attracted to him. Therefore we can only conclude that he likes you ..but not as a potential mate.

For clarity ..
You can flat out ask him - if you like but , honest to goodness at 58 I've been on this planet long enough to know what mutual attraction looks like between a male & a female.

Trust me sweetheart retain your dignity. And simply stay registered on the site while you wait for the man for you to come along. Its not that he didn't find your appearance attractive.
Of course he did .. otherwise he wouldn't have approached you

( I'm assuming it was him who DM'd you first.)

It was just once you had both met in person a few times ..he realised you were a nice lady but that he wasn't romantically attracted.

Keep in touch let us know how things go on the new dates . I wish you wonderful experiences 🙂

@Kae20 really appreciate this it makes sense.... we are meeting this wkend to watch eurovision together so... will see what happens but have put away any expectation thank u

@BondGirl84 aww I would have liked to have seen more prospect.

But you never know , you may find yourselves enjoying a cosy weekend on the sofa .

And it finally becomes all singing & dancing for the pair of you . If not enjoy your lovely friendship anyway 🍻

@eyeno For me, my family (my 4 y/o daughter but also my adult kids from first relationship to some degree) and myself will always come first as self-care is important before you can extend that to include others.

@MrBrownstone oh yea defo

@BondGirl84 Also not fun saying you aren’t into someone.😕

@MrBrownstone have said it to someone b4, yea not a nice feeling... inwanna ask but reckon i shld wait to see what he says about this wkend.... if he says no thats a sign so will say i had a feeling anyway

@BondGirl84 Do you know what his care arrangements are like and has he given you any indication on how the breakup with his daughter's mum went? I see my 4 y/o daughter 4 nights a fn (one single mid-week and a block of three over ever second weekend), and most women aren't interested because I have a young child. I guess they immediately know I am never going to be available.

@zonavar68 every 2nd wkend & one weeknight... i know he doesn't go out much so.... yea.... will see what happens for next weekend as i mentioned about doing something... ah well...

@BondGirl84 Sounds like me - my 'going out' is going to work on all the other days I don't have my daughter such as today. I don't have any friends network or social activities any more apart from occasionally being able to do Landcare with a local bunch on thursday mornings. Besides that, and doing things when I have my daughter, I don't go out.

@Coralmist i wanna give it time & be friends but any guy b4 i knew after the 3rd date!

@Tres13 we net on a hook up site!! Lol neither if us has brought it up tho!

@Bang5luts well without me asking hes confirmed plans for this wkend so...