I don't know if i should ask?!

Met a guy off a dating site & we have met up a few times... he has a daughter & he does tend to go a bit quiet the weekends he has her which i totally understand... but seems the last few days he hasn't initiated the conversation when we chat... also we have met like 5 or 6 times but neither of us is flirting & neither of us has initiated any kissing etc... think i have been friend zoned... we were chatting to meet up the 14th May, something i suggested a couple of weeks ago, its eurovision & we both love it... thought it wud be a gud bonding thing... at the time he said he had plans that day but wud prefer to watch eurovision... i reminded him about it 2day & said he'll let me know 2moro.... but we are still on a friendly basis.... aa the general conversation has gone quiet unsure if i shld ask if we just friends or if there is any point in continuing as the conversation has died a bit.... or maybe just let things flow.... happy to be friends or let things flow but just wanna know where i stand....

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Kae20 · 61-69, FVIP

Unless there are mental health issues ( & doesn't seem like there are any here )

Actions will say it all. He has decided that he sees you has a friend.

And thats nice!

Keep on looking & dating and If you want a lover.

BondGirl84 · 36-40, F

@Kae20 he did mention he always needs to decompress after he has his daughter or has family over even for a few hours or for the day.... currently staying with my family which causes some stress & anxiety but cases said in passing.... reckon that has caused an issue? But after each time we have met we both have said having that break from the other stuff has helped....

Kae20 · 61-69, FVIP

@BondGirl84 I appreciate that he does need to decompress. & When two adults male & female are attracted to each other & in each others company.

Their preferred choice of decompression, is using the opportunity to cuddle, kiss, and so much more .

When two grown adults ..seek each other out as a potential match on a dating site , time & time again and this choice of decompression.. consistently never happens . Its because one or both of the pairing is not sexually attracted to the other

In this case ..you have made it clear to us that you very much are attracted to him. Therefore we can only conclude that he likes you ..but not as a potential mate.

For clarity ..
You can flat out ask him - if you like but , honest to goodness at 58 I've been on this planet long enough to know what mutual attraction looks like between a male & a female.

Trust me sweetheart retain your dignity. And simply stay registered on the site while you wait for the man for you to come along. Its not that he didn't find your appearance attractive.
Of course he did .. otherwise he wouldn't have approached you

( I'm assuming it was him who DM'd you first.)

It was just once you had both met in person a few times ..he realised you were a nice lady but that he wasn't romantically attracted.

Keep in touch let us know how things go on the new dates . I wish you wonderful experiences 🙂

BondGirl84 · 36-40, F

@Kae20 really appreciate this it makes sense.... we are meeting this wkend to watch eurovision together so... will see what happens but have put away any expectation thank u

Kae20 · 61-69, FVIP

@BondGirl84 aww I would have liked to have seen more prospect.

But you never know , you may find yourselves enjoying a cosy weekend on the sofa .

And it finally becomes all singing & dancing for the pair of you . If not enjoy your lovely friendship anyway 🍻