I don't know if i should ask?!

Met a guy off a dating site & we have met up a few times... he has a daughter & he does tend to go a bit quiet the weekends he has her which i totally understand... but seems the last few days he hasn't initiated the conversation when we chat... also we have met like 5 or 6 times but neither of us is flirting & neither of us has initiated any kissing etc... think i have been friend zoned... we were chatting to meet up the 14th May, something i suggested a couple of weeks ago, its eurovision & we both love it... thought it wud be a gud bonding thing... at the time he said he had plans that day but wud prefer to watch eurovision... i reminded him about it 2day & said he'll let me know 2moro.... but we are still on a friendly basis.... aa the general conversation has gone quiet unsure if i shld ask if we just friends or if there is any point in continuing as the conversation has died a bit.... or maybe just let things flow.... happy to be friends or let things flow but just wanna know where i stand....

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AthrillatheHunt · 51-55, M

I recommend against directly asking where you stand . Send a “hey” text to gage his interest .

BondGirl84 · 36-40, F

@AthrillatheHunt been doing that this wkend but know he has his daughter so... will gauge during the week...

zonavar68 · 51-55, M

@BondGirl84 Do you know what his care arrangements are like and has he given you any indication on how the breakup with his daughter's mum went? I see my 4 y/o daughter 4 nights a fn (one single mid-week and a block of three over ever second weekend), and most women aren't interested because I have a young child. I guess they immediately know I am never going to be available.

BondGirl84 · 36-40, F

@zonavar68 every 2nd wkend & one weeknight... i know he doesn't go out much so.... yea.... will see what happens for next weekend as i mentioned about doing something... ah well...

zonavar68 · 51-55, M

@BondGirl84 Sounds like me - my 'going out' is going to work on all the other days I don't have my daughter such as today. I don't have any friends network or social activities any more apart from occasionally being able to do Landcare with a local bunch on thursday mornings. Besides that, and doing things when I have my daughter, I don't go out.