Why do white people have such trouble with controlling their kids?

I'm white and I have no problem controlling my kids.

I have no trouble with my kid behaving, she rarely needed to be 'controlled' and never with corporal punishments. I think a lot of parents just fail to connect with their kids these days.

You seem to associate discipline with fear. To answer your question , poverty is linked to child abuse and neglect,or general mistreatment. Poverty is also linked to educational disadvantages. And educational disadvantages and poverty are more common amongst minorities like blacks and hispanics. Not asians however. It could be assumed that part of it is a lack of understanding on how physical violence as a form of discipline actually affects children . It could also be that it is an intergenerational behaviour . It could be both. Kind of like the poverty trap. Maybe part of it. Also children of abused households dont do well in education either. And if those households are also low income earners their chance of not receiving an adequate educational experience further increases. Repeating the cycle. I hope this somewhat answers you

White countries have laws against child abuse. I don't know what the limits are but I think if you think about your kids in even a slightly negative manner you get sent to gulag.

In Asia as long as you don't attend school concussed, they leave discipline up to the parents. My dad certainly trashed me on almost a daily basis lol

I turned out a lot better than my peers I feel

It's the other way around here in Norway. Except that Norwegian parents don't need to slap their children for the children to behave. Immigrant children, well boys mostly, on the other hand seem more likely to run around getting under people's feet in supermarkets and so on. The distinction is not so much ethnic as recent immigrant versus long term residents.

Stigmatizing corporal punishment was a problem for some kids in terms of learning boundaries and this then is paired with a general culture of treating the child like a responsible and mature adult.

Sometimes a child just won't care if they're grounded or told to do chores. But feeling a bit of pain snaps them out of the delusion that they can act how they want without consequences (and sometimes painful ones). And some kids are just stubborn to the core and it takes them longer to learn respect or care 🤷🏾‍♂️

My mother likes to recall how uncontrollable I was when I was a toddler. 😂 She could use a wooden spoon all she wanted, I did it again and again. I had zero sense of self-preservation. I'd say maybe that's your answer but allegedly my brother run away as soon as he saw her going for the wooden spoon.

Nonsense. The most fuked up people I have known are from Africa and other contexts where beating is normalized.

Well that’s a bit racist but here especially in the first world predominantly white countries there seems to be a stigma against hitting children. It wasn’t like that when I was a child in the 80s and 90s it’s a relatively new thing. It’s also illegal for schools and nurseries to raise a hand to a child, has been since before I was born. I don’t think it’s illegal for parents to though. Over here it’s very much thought that there are other ways of discipling children other than hitting.

Because, white kids manipulate, get offended, scarred and traumatized if asked to take out the trash or do their homework

I know some parents that don't believe in telling their kids no. Funny thing is, giving them everything they want makes them unhappy horrible kids.

I think it is partially a generational thing; older couples are more strict. It's also just parenting styles.

Its their upbringing

It depends how they are brought up or not

what a dumb thing to say

Yeah cuz hitting your child to control them sounds healthy

Why do white people

I think you mean Yankees