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There is one thing I hate

Thats guilt. Sometimes I wish I didn't believe because then I could avoid that feeling.. The feeling of having to be perfect. To not do anything that is considered sinful. In fact it has got to the point wherein I've had enough of it. Where I just want to do what I want to do.
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4meAndyou · F
I struggle with this quite a bit, so I know just how awful it feels. Personally, I feel that some people are telling me that my blameless life is just NOT good enough...and that I need to do MORE, or do things differently...and I absolutely know that nothing I do will be good enough...because there are some people who just can't forgive me for being ME. I can't fit myself into a certain mold.

I know that I will hate selling myself out to conformist people who will always disapprove. I will hate seeing their little prune faces, and barely concealed sneers. There are always WONDERFUL people, too, who are kind and full of forgiveness for whatever I do, or however I choose to live...but just SEEING those others again...it's just hard.

What is also hard is knowing that I really haven't forgiven those who were unkind...because if I see them again, they will continue doing MORE unkind things.

So I make up excuses. I avoid. But I can't hide from myself.
4meAndyou · F
@WillaKissing @RubiesandButterflies Thank you both. Willakissing...I am already a hermit in a very minor way. I do go out once a week to help my neighbors. But I understand your feelings. I FEEL them.
WillaKissing · 56-60, M
@4meAndyou I 💓 our hermitages! And getting out once a week or once every other week to help or visit is what I do too. Much Respect my sweet friend.
4meAndyou · F
@WillaKissing Right back at ya!
saintsong · 41-45, F
I have learned that all of us that our righteousness is like that of filthy rags, but God made Him He who knew no sin to become sin for us so that we might have the righteousness of God! I rest in these truths. I still want to live according to His righteousness, but GRACE!
RubiesandButterflies · 51-55, F
@saintsong ok ty
Then you have had people intentionally mischaracterize the New Testament to you, which is all too common.

The people who raised or taught / teach you, the ministers / pastors / priests have not been true to the Gospel, though they may have been true to their theological touchstones.

Just read the 4 Gospels for yourself.

You'll see what I mean.

The Good News is that God is actually interested in relationship more than judgment. The worrying about sin and ephahs of grain and atoning...it comes out of an unclear understanding of the One Who Is.

One of the primary jobs of the Messiah is to clear up the misconceptions about the nature of God. He stretches out a hand and smiles and invites us to come and begin a walk with Him.

Don't let people throw you from that.
RubiesandButterflies · 51-55, F
@SomeMichGuy most of what was taught to me I learnt in a religious cult.
@RubiesandButterflies OMG...

Well...wow...I am sorry.

Most cults based in some notion of Christianity crucially use the "only WE have THE Truth / the WHOLE story" as part of their message, and they control knowledge by controlling the message.

I always encourage people claiming some level of Christianity to simply read the Gospels.

There was one television preacher--Arnold Murray, I think, from Gravette, AR, on a show called The Shepherd's Chapel--who was not like the standard televangelists. He sat at a simple desk with a flower on it, the US and Christian flags over his shoulder, and his Bible and a stack of letters. No arena, no expensive set, no audience.

He mostly read the Bible and focused on its plain meaning. And he would talk about the Hebrew or Greek words of the original languages, and often encouraged people to look into the original languages, himself.

He'd go through some questions in his mail, telling the writer where to look in the Bible, and would end up praying over the rest of the questions. He never said he had all the answers, he never demanded money. There is some criticism of his beliefs, but I was surprised to find very little with which I disagreed, and he wasn't in on the "prosperity Gospel" nonsense of so many of the on-air personality preachers. To my point, he encouraged viewers to read the Bible and get into the original languages, themselves. See https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Shepherd%27s_Chapel for a little more.

I can't imagine what you went through.
Guilt lets you know God is still working on you. I don’t EVER want to be so that I can’t feel guilt when I’ve done wrong. It is the conviction of the Holy Ghost to be repented of whatever transgression your conscience makes you aware of. No one is perfect and we all fail at times. Some more than others but as long as you are striving to move forward and trusting him to help you. Lean heavily on the Lord
RubiesandButterflies · 51-55, F
@Unefilletrescurieuse I'm struggling at the moment to trust him. Alot of bad Stuff has happened in my life and sometimes I fail to see why he is allowing it.
@RubiesandButterflies As I read your words this scripture came to my mind.

Isaiah 55:8-10
King James Version
8 For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, saith the Lord.

9 For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways, and my thoughts than your thoughts.


And this one


1 Peter 5:7
King James Version
7 Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you.
RubiesandButterflies · 51-55, F
Back when I was a lot younger, I read a very popular book, Your Erroneous Zones by Wayne Dyer. The main point is about living in the present. The book goes into many things that seem normal but have no real logic. Guilt and worry are explained in detail. Perfection is an undefined and unachievable man made concept.
@RubiesandButterflies Bet you can find it for free on pdf.drive.
RubiesandButterflies · 51-55, F
@BlueSkyKing it doesn't seem to be coming up on there i looked.
@RubiesandButterflies Did for me. Try Anna's Archives Lots of downloads there.
WillaKissing · 56-60, M
I love my Christianity, and I will never deny it or God and Jesus. But I cut the holy than thou out of my life including church services, but I read the bible when I need too and pray every day
RubiesandButterflies · 51-55, F
@WillaKissing I don't go to church but I do read the Bible and pray.
WillaKissing · 56-60, M
@RubiesandButterflies That is all God asks of us is to have a personal relationship with him to believe in him and Jesus as our savior, and not to play the judgmental Holy than thou member of a church or to suffer the Churchies judgement.
None of us is perfect. Just be true to yourself.
RubiesandButterflies · 51-55, F
Guilt should not be part of our walk, but Godly sorrow should.

Still, we will only be perfected in heaven and will always face such trials in this life.
RubiesandButterflies · 51-55, F
Crazywaterspring · 61-69, M
Guilt is another tool used by churches to control you.
RubiesandButterflies · 51-55, F
@Crazywaterspring it can certainly feel that way.
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