I attract way too many people An older man, this middle-aged guy that annoyed me, and even a...

morrgin · F

I've had the same issue. I used it for power sometimes. Only when I knew it was harmless and the stakes were low. Its not like they saw me as a person. Other times it wasn't the type of people and/or situation that I wanted to ever be within any proximity. I could practically feel the evil perversion rolling around them trying to get me. It would make my stomach roll in panic. This has happened so many times. It doesn't happen much anymore because I stick to myself, my family, and have only a few trusted friends.

4meAndyou · F

When I was in high school and older, I was attractive to a lot of people, too. I think you have to realize that the people who hit on you just want to use you for your body, and they don't care about you as a human being.

I didn't know how to deal with it, either, and it would never have occurred to me to take advantage of it. I figured that the people who were hitting on me were all like me...and that they would be hurt if I rejected them. I actually suffered, thinking about their pain.

In fact, most of them were human garbage...and I was a stupid kid. If you have trouble dealing with it, just cut them short, and say, "I'm not interested".

Streamofconsciousness · 31-35, T

Wow, this got a lot of responses! I appreciate everyone's answers. We've been hanging out with these neighbours quite a lot lately, so it's hard to say how superficial the whole thing is.

It's probably best for me to just assume it's a shallow intrigue rather than anything to do with who I am as a person. I don't think I'm capable of taking advantage of a situation, nor would I want to.

It was strange to me that my guy was suggesting that's what I should do. Then again, it's one of the many reasons we're kind of parting ways. He says a lot of things I find odd or controlling, and this is one of them.

Anyway, thank you all for the insightful responses!

SW-User

I get this a lot. Plenty of 80 year old women asking me to hold their hand while they cross the street. Like sure sure ladies..🙄 you all share the same pick up lines or something..?

SW-User

Some people give attention to anything that moves. It's up to you how you handle that. Glad you are not using it in your favor. Everything comes with a trade-off and when older people are involved, it will get stale pretty quick(no pun intended).

GERRI · 51-55, F

Perfect timing. I've been mulling over to confess my actions that when I was 17 I had a summer-long romance with a 42-year-old neighbor who was also the father of a friend.

But sorry, I have no sage advice for you. Follow your own instincts.

SW-User

Never use people because of your looks. Just put your guard up and be a strong woman and work on your self esteem so nobody uses you.

ABCDEF7 · M

Be aware, who uses and who gets used. I guess, it's both ways.

ScarletWitch · 31-35, F

Get rid of them all. They're all weak.

Bonnie · 41-45, F

Why do you think they are attracted to you?