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I have the worst story to tell u. I am 20 and I have been messing around with a guy for a while and he is 23 and has two little Boys and a gf. a few days before my 20th bday I found out I was pregnant. my dad found out on my 20th bday which was the 11th. I got yelled at for days and I got talked into having an abortion. I am completely against abortion. to me it is murder. I have been crying the past few days and my dad woke me up this morning and said I can take the car to work this week but next week I am going to have to find another way to work because I won't have the car anymore. when my dad found out on my birthday he said that if I was going to chose to have the baby I can't stay in his house. so I ran away and slept in a motel over night and had dad pick me up in the morning. I am extremely suicidal right now, the pain I feel in my heart is without a doubt the worst pain I have ever been in, in my life. all I want to do is die. please no judgment because honestly I can't take anymore. I just wanted to tell u this because my dad doesn't understand my feelings for him and I don't know what else to do.
danielle1888
26-30, F
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zacksb1
Why ruin two lives? you obviously cant even take care of yourself. It is your choice but its not a logical one. The extra struggle for yourself, the selfish burden your going to place on your family, sounds like an unstable and reliable dad. Your setting yourself up for hell. You could get out of it by having an abortion. Then re focus on getting yourself back together cause your mentally out of it. I hate that we havent experienced anything about the real world, from living on our own in our own place, getting a car, etc. I dont understand how you/people can be suicidal if you have not experienced the freedom we get in a couple of years. But forget all of that when you have a kid... im close with a girl at work who had a kid just too early. Shes not happy at all. Seen her pawn the kid to her parents cause she wants to go out and have fun with her friends. You dont live for yourself anymore. And if you battle depression, those days where you really need a good day for yourself wont exist anymore. Better get out of that fairy world quick cause your not only setting yourself up for a much harder life, but your childs too. Really want your kid to end up with the same mental problems you have? do yourself a favor and actually listen to an adult who can forsee future events and expenses you just cant yet because your on fantasy island
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zacksb1
also if someone on here tells you that you can do it all, its prob because they are from some hick state in the south or the midwest where the cost of living is cheap. Where rent for a decent place could be $600 bucks, which is nothing if you 18-19 living with a couple of people. But your in NJ. We dont get places at 18-19 like kids in other states because cost is so high here. So if you choose to have this thing your going to be better off moving to a place in pa where the cost of living is so cheap. You want to be selfish and have this baby, be prepared for all the little things you have no idea about that will hit you ever so hard
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BradScott
Choosing not to have an abortion is not selfish. Having one destroys the life of the one developing and can cause years of grief and guilt for the poster.
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jakdempsey
Do what is right for you, follow your heart. If you go ahead and have your child prepare yourself, stand on your own two feet. Find your own place. It won't be easy, parenting seldom is. Dad has lost his little girl, it's a hard thing for a dad to swallow that his baby has grown up, he will come around sooner or later. You worry about you. Don't go shoving it in his face, let him come to terms with it all. It would have been a massive shock.
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BradScott
I feel the same way about abortion. If you have not had the procedure, yet, don't. If you have, God can forgive you. Feel free to PM me if you'd like to chat. I won't judge you.
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SpudESM
She can decide for herself her views on religion. I find that no matter what religion the other person is, that this is sometimes the way they show they are thinking of you, and are wishing the best for you. What I see here is a guy who is genuinely concerned about a young woman, and who is being attacked by someone who doesn't agree with his approach. I don't usually take sides, but you are responding in a very narrow-minded, aggressive, and immature manner, which is not helping this situation, or the girl you should be trying to help.
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SpudESM
^^^that was supposed to be a response to you
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SpudESM
I never said that you didn't offer help to her. What I'm saying is that attacking someone else's way of offering help is immature and narrow-minded. I think that your advise was very good, but so was brads. He just has a different way of showing support, and I think it's important to respect that rather than to throw away what he's saying. This whole app is about supporting others and offering CONSTRUCTIVE options. She has made no indication on whether or not she is religious, so saying that she shouldn't have to worry about "your spooky imaginary friend" could very well be attacking her beliefs as well.
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Sublearner · 31-35, F
I'll pray for you but think honestly what you can do to find good friends that can be supportive of your life and love you. Jesus wants the best for you. No life is easy but having a baby can teach you about Jesus.

Since it didn't happen try later in life and just grow to love Jesus first. That way you can work on loving yourself and grow. 😀
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CoriWilson
Oh, my goodness. I'm so sorry. If you don't want to have an abortion, he shouldn't try to threaten and coerce you into having one. That's just--

Are there any friends or relatives you might be able to stay with?

And, I know it's not much, but if you ever need to talk, message me, okay?
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starling156
Having the baby or not is your own choice, but killing yourself won't solve your problems or even give you a chance to think things through. Do what YOU want to do and don't listen to your father. Do your research on what to do if he kicks you out. See where you can stay.
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samaxa
If a thousand people knew of this, I'm sure that most of them would tell you that if you want to keep the baby, it is YOUR CHOICE !
Whatever you do, it is not going to be easy for you, but it will be better later.
It is your body, it is your life.
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sharemythoughts
I'm sorry
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