I Battle Depression

I have the worst story to tell u. I am 20 and I have been messing around with a guy for a while and he is 23 and has two little Boys and a gf. a few days before my 20th bday I found out I was pregnant. my dad found out on my 20th bday which was the 11th. I got yelled at for days and I got talked into having an abortion. I am completely against abortion. to me it is murder. I have been crying the past few days and my dad woke me up this morning and said I can take the car to work this week but next week I am going to have to find another way to work because I won't have the car anymore. when my dad found out on my birthday he said that if I was going to chose to have the baby I can't stay in his house. so I ran away and slept in a motel over night and had dad pick me up in the morning. I am extremely suicidal right now, the pain I feel in my heart is without a doubt the worst pain I have ever been in, in my life. all I want to do is die. please no judgment because honestly I can't take anymore. I just wanted to tell u this because my dad doesn't understand my feelings for him and I don't know what else to do.

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BradScott

I feel the same way about abortion. If you have not had the procedure, yet, don't. If you have, God can forgive you. Feel free to PM me if you'd like to chat. I won't judge you.

BradScott

With all due respect, and such a rude response as yours sure doesn't earn much, I said nothing that would in any way add more to her plate. My response was compassionate, respectful, and nonjudgmental, which is a whole lot more than can be said for yours.

BradScott

I wasn't expecting her to do anything of the kind.

starling156

Holy crap give the guy a break, would you? You're against religion and that's your choice. But agree to disagree. He did not say "God will forgive you only if you REPENT blah blah blah" he just offered her his support. He did not make her do anything. She can make up her own mind about religion anyway, if she hasn't already. Also, she said in the post that she was against abortions, and he said he agreed. So saying "you are in no position whatsoever to be offering a stranger advice on whether she should or should not have an abortion" is complete bullshit. This is EP, and she is asking for advice. That's the whole point. She came here with the intention of finding out what other people thought she should do. I'm glad you actually apologized at the end. I just felt the need to say something, just like you did. I know you replied because you cared, but it was more like an attack than a discussion.

SpudESM

She can decide for herself her views on religion. I find that no matter what religion the other person is, that this is sometimes the way they show they are thinking of you, and are wishing the best for you. What I see here is a guy who is genuinely concerned about a young woman, and who is being attacked by someone who doesn't agree with his approach. I don't usually take sides, but you are responding in a very narrow-minded, aggressive, and immature manner, which is not helping this situation, or the girl you should be trying to help.

SpudESM

^^^that was supposed to be a response to you

SpudESM

I never said that you didn't offer help to her. What I'm saying is that attacking someone else's way of offering help is immature and narrow-minded. I think that your advise was very good, but so was brads. He just has a different way of showing support, and I think it's important to respect that rather than to throw away what he's saying. This whole app is about supporting others and offering CONSTRUCTIVE options. She has made no indication on whether or not she is religious, so saying that she shouldn't have to worry about "your spooky imaginary friend" could very well be attacking her beliefs as well.