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[c=#7700B2]ehh I'm starting to think I have got into the wrong field of work. Its so emotionally draining and is making me miserable being around people who are mentally ill and wanting to help them but there are so many stupid rules that help almost becomes impossible.
I go home every day from there feeling really sad. I don't know what to do[/c]

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JoanieNewHampshire · T

You must be a very intuitive person. Rules can be very frustrating for people like us. If helping people is your passion though, with experience will come ways that you will see you can get around the rules and provide for them what you can.

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JoanieNewHampshire · T

@PlumBerries: lol! 😊🌸 I'm assuming you're in some kind of Heath care? Standards of care evolve quiet slowly with huge obstacles. The idea is to provide care and do no harm. Add that to less then creative minds and stagnation can be very frustrating. I'm confident that if this is your passion, you'll find your route and you'll see the things you want to occurs happen. It's just the way life is. Sometimes hard things accomplished are the best things after. You might even get your drive from them.

For me, I grew up in a less then tolerant age, heck I watch women go from no rights to having the possibilities they do know. I saw gays come out of the closet, so know it our day. Transgender people are being seen more and more, and the gender rules are being broken everyday. I love this world, and I hate this world. It's just what this world is. I honestly believe that challenges make us better all around.

We are headed to the gym! You have an awesome day. And if at anytime you're feeling overwhelmed, just take a deep breath and know that you are working hard for the things that you want. Even if the seem un achievable

PlumBerries · 31-35, F

[c=#7700B2]thanks again Joanie, you truly are awesome. yep I'm in health care.

yeah its bout time transgendr people are more accepted and can be safe when out and about.. not that the world is perfect with accepting yet but I'm sure we will get there.

Have fun at the gym and thankyou i will definitely take your advice[/c]

JoanieNewHampshire · T

Thank you! And you being in health care makes you a great alie! I hope all works out and you find your way successfully throught the inadequacies of the system! Gym was awesome! And the pool, beach, pool bar and everything else you come across on a beach resort is too! @PlumBerries:

persistentone22 · M

The healthcare system in the US is also broken. It has gotten to the point where doctors spend only 15 minutes with you at a visit, and it almost feels like they are robots just processing data against checklists. They don't actually see making you feel good as their job. It's not their job to optimize your health. Everything has become about diagnosing a "disease" (90% of which they can't cure anyway so what is the point) and about giving you an "approved" drug that the drug companies are overcharging taxpayers for. The average cancer drug in the US now costs over $100K / year. The whole system has become about big corporations looting, raping, and pillaging taxpayers, and doctors are all willing participants in the crime.

What I would do in your situation is look into alternative holistic mental health practices, focusing on nutrition and metabolism based diagnosis. If you contact me on PM I can send you a URL for one such practitioner in the US, just so you can get a feeling for how these practitioners are set up. Because they are running cash-only services for patients, they do not feel the chains put on them by insurance companies. It is the insurance companies, together with drug companies and medical licensing boards (that are just shills for drug companies), that have distorted the system. Alternative practitioners running cash-only services are able to act much more based on what the patient asks for and needs, because every hour of time is compensated.

What is it you want to do? Counseling?

PlumBerries · 31-35, F

[c=#7700B2]thank you I might just contact you soon :)
nah I don't wanna do counselling. I'm not fit for that role I think.. I just wanna be there for support. I don't wanna deal with medications and stuff. doesn't seem to be how its turning out, but that is what I want[/c]

hlpflwthat · M

How long have you actually been working in the field?

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PlumBerries · 31-35, F

[c=#7700B2]probably not but its what her and her parents wanted. [/c]

hlpflwthat · M

Yeah - it would definitely influence my selectionif I were choosing for my own kid.

I'm sorry for dragging this on, but I just find it interesting.

PlumBerries · 31-35, F

[c=#7700B2]she is pretty young, so I fully get why her parents would want her close and same to her wanting to be close to her family.

no worries :)[/c]

MarineBob · 56-60, M

you just stay with it and talk to other women in your field who has been doing their job for many years, the rewards are there and you will grow to love and hate your job but the love will when

PlumBerries · 31-35, F

[c=#7700B2]I hope you are right. thanks :)[/c]

76starships · 46-50, M

I'm sorry to hear that it is taking such a toll on you. It is hard to leave work like that at home.

PlumBerries · 31-35, F

[c=#7700B2]thank you and yep it sure is[/c]

sometimeslonelytoo · 51-55, M

Mmm. Sounds pretty tough. As part of your training for your job, did you have stress management training I wonder, or techniques for maintaining boundares, or work/life balance? Sounds like you're in a caring profession, but also a very demanding one...

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PlumBerries · 31-35, F

[c=#7700B2]if things keep going that way I will definitely look into ways to deal with it. the day I posted this I just wanted to crawl in bed and never get out. was a bad day.
thanks easter weekend has been great. hows yours?[/c]

sometimeslonelytoo · 51-55, M

Yes, I know those days - when everything's just too much. My Easter weekend is going well, thanks - in a balanced way. Little bit of time off, little bit of chores :)

bhatjc · 46-50, M

@PlumBerries: Don't know yet.Have not gone to work

bhatjc · 46-50, M

Sorry to hear that miss plum. Sounds like you need to go into a different line of work. If it's emotionally draining. Then you need to find another job. Jobs should always be fun

PlumBerries · 31-35, F

[c=#7700B2]thank you and if things don't get better or i get more adjusted to that kind of system. I will have to look into a change i guess[/c]

bhatjc · 46-50, M

@PlumBerries: Your welcome. Just keep your options open.

Newandimproved · 61-69, M

Maybe a different place of employment that is in the same folield but perhaps not as intense? Sorry for your frustration

Gandalf · 26-30, M

Look into a different field of work?

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Gandalf · 26-30, M

I understand that. Is there any changes you can make while still staying within the same career path? So it doesn't feel like you've worked towards nothing

PlumBerries · 31-35, F

[c=#7700B2]I don't know, I might look more into it. I just cant keep doing what I'm doing[/c]:(

Gandalf · 26-30, M

Look into it when you have the time, you might find something that you really like :)

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