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I Work Even When I'm Not At Work

ehh I'm starting to think I have got into the wrong field of work. Its so emotionally draining and is making me miserable being around people who are mentally ill and wanting to help them but there are so many stupid rules that help almost becomes impossible.
I go home every day from there feeling really sad. I don't know what to do
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You must be a very intuitive person. Rules can be very frustrating for people like us. If helping people is your passion though, with experience will come ways that you will see you can get around the rules and provide for them what you can.
PlumBerries · 31-35, F
maybe you are right :)
its all just very frustrating and I feel helpless and cant get it out of my mind when I'm not even there
@PlumBerries: that's actually a good thing! To me it would seem that you care a lot about what you do. And your concious of how you could do it better! Keep that with you, it will be your strengths and your successes! You learn things and you might even develope things that can change the way it's done. Rules in my opinion are for robots, but they are their to help protect everyone involved. With experience you'll discover what you can and will do.
PlumBerries · 31-35, F
thanks Joanie. I guess i need to just try and get over being overly emotional with it and see where it goes.. argh being a adult sucks at times lol
@PlumBerries: lol! Tell me! I've been one for more then forty years! But it doesn't mean you give up your passions! And the rewards! Amazing! You'll find out. You seem like a carring and compassionate person, you can be an adult caring and compassionate person too!😊
PlumBerries · 31-35, F
that's really great to hear and thank you :)
@PlumBerries: you're very welcome! I wished I'd had someone in my life giving me good inspirations and insights when I was young. Learning them the hard way isn't always easy. You'll be awesome I'm sure! Just follow your dreams and desires, people will always be there trying to put up road blocks, those are the robots who can't see what you see.
PlumBerries · 31-35, F
i guess they call it the hard way for a reason. just openly talking about this makes me feel a bit better. I'm not overly social with a lot of people in person and open up about my feelings due to being afraid of being judged.
I just built it up in my mind for so long that this job would make me feel useful and happy that i can do my best to help others, instead i feel the opposite so it sucks butt.. but you are right and i need to get over it and keep going
@PlumBerries: OMG that sounds so much like me. I knew what things I wanted and wanted to do, but was so afraid of being judged that I live to others desires and not my own. Knowing that you are doing it is the first step in making your world your own. I bet you always want to do the right thing, and probably know what it is, but fear the results if others don't approve. That's what risk is all about, and when we take our calculated risks combined with our experience. The results are often good, even if it wasn't exactly the result we wanted. We learned. Just midigate what the effects might be if you might be wrong, but don't stop caring or trying to help because the odds seem against you.

Yes talking to others who can give you positive experience and insights is the best. You'll probably run in to all types in what you do, listen to the positive ones. The ones that honk anything is possible. The ones that tell you you can't have little to offer, and don't want you to get better then where they have gotten. It makes them feel good.
PlumBerries · 31-35, F
I'm guessing you took risks and did what you felt was right? you are pretty spot on about me. I have a bad fear of being judged and if i think I'm going to get judged negatively in anyway, i wont do something and because of that i end up hating myself more and more. so basically i don't do things so others wont judge me but by doing that i judge myself way worse then anyone else ever could.. its stupid in a way

you are awesome. i love your replies, they make a lot of sense. thank you so much
Thank you so much! It makes me feel good knowing that my words are helpful. I just guess I see a lot of me in you. I thought just like you are now. And adding the gender obstacle against me, I was very self concious hiding in the back ground for years, doing what I thought I was supposed to. Not living my me. What gets you past your self loathing, is conference. And you gain confidence by doing little things that are successful goals, that you know you can accomplish. I think most everyone struggles with a little self confidence in the beginning, it is a survivor instinct. Little baby steps forward, grow into confident leaps as time passes.
PlumBerries · 31-35, F
thank you for thanking me lol. I'm glad i can make you feel good because you are doing that for me now.
argh damn genders, shouldn't even be a obstacle. i mean being yourself doesnt hurt anyone. people should just mind their own business and let other be happy.
I have pretty no confidence in myself or what I'm doing most of the time, so that makes things harder. i mostly just follow my gut feelings but i cant even do that at work, so that's making things feel impossible but i will try and be a bit more open minded and will look for loop holes around some of these rules and seems like they were made in the 40's or something lol
@PlumBerries: lol! 😊🌸 I'm assuming you're in some kind of Heath care? Standards of care evolve quiet slowly with huge obstacles. The idea is to provide care and do no harm. Add that to less then creative minds and stagnation can be very frustrating. I'm confident that if this is your passion, you'll find your route and you'll see the things you want to occurs happen. It's just the way life is. Sometimes hard things accomplished are the best things after. You might even get your drive from them.

For me, I grew up in a less then tolerant age, heck I watch women go from no rights to having the possibilities they do know. I saw gays come out of the closet, so know it our day. Transgender people are being seen more and more, and the gender rules are being broken everyday. I love this world, and I hate this world. It's just what this world is. I honestly believe that challenges make us better all around.

We are headed to the gym! You have an awesome day. And if at anytime you're feeling overwhelmed, just take a deep breath and know that you are working hard for the things that you want. Even if the seem un achievable
PlumBerries · 31-35, F
thanks again Joanie, you truly are awesome. yep I'm in health care.

yeah its bout time transgendr people are more accepted and can be safe when out and about.. not that the world is perfect with accepting yet but I'm sure we will get there.

Have fun at the gym and thankyou i will definitely take your advice
Thank you! And you being in health care makes you a great alie! I hope all works out and you find your way successfully throught the inadequacies of the system! Gym was awesome! And the pool, beach, pool bar and everything else you come across on a beach resort is too! @PlumBerries: