@PlumBerries: OMG that sounds so much like me. I knew what things I wanted and wanted to do, but was so afraid of being judged that I live to others desires and not my own. Knowing that you are doing it is the first step in making your world your own. I bet you always want to do the right thing, and probably know what it is, but fear the results if others don't approve. That's what risk is all about, and when we take our calculated risks combined with our experience. The results are often good, even if it wasn't exactly the result we wanted. We learned. Just midigate what the effects might be if you might be wrong, but don't stop caring or trying to help because the odds seem against you.
Yes talking to others who can give you positive experience and insights is the best. You'll probably run in to all types in what you do, listen to the positive ones. The ones that honk anything is possible. The ones that tell you you can't have little to offer, and don't want you to get better then where they have gotten. It makes them feel good.