Is it wrong to move away from a daughter(11) who don't want me in her life?

I don’t know your specific circumstances and can understand that you do not want to live in an abusive situation. However as a young teen I was awful, I was so angry at the world and would lash out at family the most, it came from a place of deep pain that I couldn’t cope with or understand. My family never gave up on me and got me help and as I matured I got better at processing my emotions and dealing with life. I’m so close to my family and so grateful that they never gave up on me. I guess what I’m saying is she’s 11 there is so much time to turn it around and get her help

My daughter is 12, she doesn't have a phone, I have 3 kids age 14, 12 and 11, my oldest got phone just for Christmas, he was 14, I think take the phone away.. And deal with your disrespectful husband or whomever.. This is very sad

Most kids lash out against their parents. I remember telling my parents I hated them more than once. It really hurt them. But they knew it wasnt true and never gave up on me. So please dont give up on her

Have you considered that perhaps "the father" is not simply tolerating the behaviour of your daughter but is actually involved in some way?

She’s 11 and you can’t control her? That’s really sad. As for the phone shut it off. As for the father, who cares, you don’t need him in order to discipline your kid.

If you're paying her phone bill i suggest that you stop then she might cool down

this is a hard one :(. I have an 11-year-old son and I am trying to imagine if something like this happened to me. I completely understand that you want to get away from it all. And if it is too much to handle maybe it is the best step to take.

One approach is to see that these things happen to many parents of teenagers, so you are not the only one. The second thing to notice is that this might not be a long-term sentiment that your daughter has towards you. She is becoming a teenager, she is in a whirlwind of hormones, emotions... And you are her pillar. If you take a very calm approach she will appreciate that very much - not right now, but later in life definitely. You might have a very rough relationship with her for a few years, but when she is in a more calm state of her body and mind, she will definitely appreciate that you did not explode because of her bad behavior.

I know this might not be very comforting at the moment, but dealing with kids is a marathon. But we tend to look at it as a set of sprints. So we get exhausted so fast.

The reactions of her father - that is a different story. You definitely need to talk with him (not in front of her) about this situation. You two are the adults in this story and have to act accordingly.

You should take her into talk to a school counselor being mad at her is only going to piss her off. You are a young mother don't you remember what it's like?

I am thankful to everyone here, who gave their valuable comments. I just don't know where could I post this as I don't want to say something in FB.

I would also say leave the dad. With him, it will turn into hell as she is growing up. When she is in trouble he will turn around and blame you cause “you are the mother”. What a POS man. If you leave, tell her why.That you can’t take it anymore.. With such a dad he will tell her everyday “oh your mother left you! She doesnt love you” or “she got another man!” Blah blah man can be biotches. Also if you do leave, tell her the address and that if she wants she can always come over.

nothing you can do, if she doesn't want to know you, then that is that.

Sounds to me like you need to be speak to your husband. Get his support to work jointly to stop your daughter becoming an undisciplined brat. If that doesn't happen your daughter will grow up damaged.

A lot of the kids say stuff they don't really mean. They are sometime reluctant to show their softer side. I was like that. I think she needs you She is just 11. Talk to her at a better time.

And If I were you, I would be more concerned about your husband. It might be that he is influencing such a behaviour from your daughter.

I feel the same some days. Having a 14 yr old who refuses to go to school, steals from me, steals from her siblings and destroys our belongings. It's enough to make anyone want to run for the hills. You just have to hope that one day they will come through it. 💚

[c=004A59]Unbelievable. When I was a kid, we not only didn't have cell phones, we didn't even have private landlines in our rooms. Every phone conversation happened in the kitchen under the parents watchful eyes. [/c]

How abt talk to your husband about this problem. You have to be in sync right when you’re trying to instill good values and discipline for your child.

Tell her that you want to move away and I bet that'll break her heart and cause emotional scaring that'll lead to a life of drug addiction and loveless sex. Sorry 😞 I should go to bed now.

God I’m so sorry … i hope in time your daughter chills out and your Hubby appreciates you more 🌹

Your husband should have your back no matter what. You're her mother. That deserves respect.

One time I hit my mom and she fought me like a man and I never did that shit again 😂

If your husband does not have your back time to leave him. Disconnect your daughters phone.

Have you considered getting her counseling

Did you talk to the father?

Dad won’t back you up? That’s piss poor.

Your husband is as weak as pi$$

Hugs