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Is it wrong to move away from a daughter(11) who don't want me in her life?

I am lost for words and I am still utterly shocked that my daughter is capable of almost pushing me downstairs. After I confronted her about her phone, that everytime I ring, it wont connect to her number. This has been happening for almost 2 weeks now, and she refused to show me the settings of her phone. I tried confiscating her phone due to her verbal abuse towards me and she refused to do so, and she threatened me of pushing me downstairs. Her father was there, just making approval everytime my daughter gives me verbal abuse and even threatened me of inflicting pain towards me. I just don't understand that a father would tolerate such disrespect towards her own mother.

I want to move away from this house hold. Right now, I just want to end everything. I am sad that my daughter who used to be sweet and loving, is turning into an agressive child. My heart is shattered into pieces.

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I don’t know your specific circumstances and can understand that you do not want to live in an abusive situation. However as a young teen I was awful, I was so angry at the world and would lash out at family the most, it came from a place of deep pain that I couldn’t cope with or understand. My family never gave up on me and got me help and as I matured I got better at processing my emotions and dealing with life. I’m so close to my family and so grateful that they never gave up on me. I guess what I’m saying is she’s 11 there is so much time to turn it around and get her help

tryingtobeOK · 36-40, F

I don't know that's my greatest dilemma as well.

I am so hurt, she doesn't want me anymore. She's my world. @SW-User

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@tryingtobeOK I was like that with my brother who is my guardian - I would hit him, scream at him, I hated him…but it wasn’t really hate…I was hurting and angry and he became my focus…it was safe because I knew no matter how awful I was he wouldn’t leave me and still loved me

tryingtobeOK · 36-40, F

Hugs , Sophie. Thank you for sharing your experience.

I just need to be away, maybe for now. It's the right thing to do at this moment in time.

I grew up with a mother who was alcoholic. My mom never spent time with me or help me in any of my homework. But I never ever spoke to my mom using bad words and I never inflicted any pain to my mom. When she got ill, I went back to my hometown and took care of her and paid for her medical expenses.
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