How do you take criticsim, negative feedback? Do you have enough strength to pounder rather than retaliating back?

We often receive feedback from people around us,friends, family/ spouse, coworkers/ boss and managers.

Not everyone is nice or convey the message correctly and may be agressive, insulting and so on, however, in the end message is being delieverd to us to make change/improvement.

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Michelle585 · 51-55, F Best Comment

If I have an emotional reaction to any comment, my reaction is for me to consider (ie, why did that feeling come up? Is there any truth to the comment?) and then decide how to respond to the messenger, as well what do I do with the information, if anything.

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aaaabbbb

@Michelle585 i am impressed as it very hard to get there.

Michelle585 · 51-55, F

@ MarkPaul - When you’re a little older and have lived through some shitty stuff, and hopefully learned some shit, it might make more sense to you.

aaaabbbb

@Michelle585 that's true and sometimes shit stinks and teaches us those valuable leassons.

SW-User

Being raised in an Asian household, everything is told to your face. That you are too fat, that your features are unpleasant, that you made a bad decision. I think I take criticism pretty well. Only the individual can decide what to do with the information given by others. You can choose to change in order to meet their standards, or you can do what you want. People will never really be satisfied, so one might as well focus on improving in a way that we see fit, rather than because someone told us to. Feedback lets us see ourselves through the eyes of another. But in the end, what we do is our decision.

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BoobooSnafu

@SW-User WOW.......what an attitude for one so young. The "Criticism is always painful" comment....you are so right !!!!..but learning to see it for what it is......learning to see the logic and reason of it, without the emotional impact !!!.......wow - that's the amazing part.
I have read your words three times - and am still trying to get your words to sink in. I know the theory.......but I still can't detach myself emotionally from negative comments - although - I think I recover faster these days.
But you have a strong sense of self - I admire that.!!! Very much. There are many who NEVER achieve this in their life time !!!!

You should be very proud of that !!!

aaaabbbb

@BoobooSnafu she had surprised me with her answer

BoobooSnafu

@aaaabbbb ...Yes! - there is a lot of wisdom there !!!
Not something often found these days...especially in one so early in their life.!!!
She has a lot of balance for her age !.....I admire that!

StokedFox · 36-40, F

It's easy most of the time people's negativity is obviously just a reflection of themselves. But I stay humble and I'm trying to learn and grow, I'm paying attention. Most of what I learn from others they teach me without knowing.

MarkPaul · 26-30, M

Let's test it...

Your advice seems like a cliché with very little connection to practical experience... almost like you are equating to life to a textbook explanation.

SW-User

Luckily, i seem to care less as i grow older. When i was little i was terribly sensitive and every negative feedback cut like a razor. Why the f I was so stupid still no idea

JustNik · 51-55, F

🤷‍♀️ Take it as it’s given. Given with good intentions, taken as such with serious consideration and application. Given with the hopes of upsetting or humiliating or knocking me down, I think as much about said “feedback” as I do of its source.

MsAnnThropy

There is a difference between criticism and being a straight asshole. I fall under the latter. I can take criticism. But people confuse criticism with retaliation. They pull the “but you’re mean so why can’t I be mean” card like stupid little kids do.

Xena1234 · 51-55, F

Not necessarily. Some people are just mean spirited. And, I for one, am not about to take negativity and embrace it "Just in case" it was meant in a positive way

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