How do you take criticsim, negative feedback? Do you have enough strength to pounder rather than retaliating back?

We often receive feedback from people around us,friends, family/ spouse, coworkers/ boss and managers.

Not everyone is nice or convey the message correctly and may be agressive, insulting and so on, however, in the end message is being delieverd to us to make change/improvement.

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SW-User

Being raised in an Asian household, everything is told to your face. That you are too fat, that your features are unpleasant, that you made a bad decision. I think I take criticism pretty well. Only the individual can decide what to do with the information given by others. You can choose to change in order to meet their standards, or you can do what you want. People will never really be satisfied, so one might as well focus on improving in a way that we see fit, rather than because someone told us to. Feedback lets us see ourselves through the eyes of another. But in the end, what we do is our decision.

Mamapolo2016 · F

@SW-User That’s interesting. A way to build strength, I guess. Is it painful or DO you get stronger because of it?

aaaabbbb

@SW-User too harsh. But understandably soo. I agree with you in certain aspects.

SW-User

@Mamapolo2016 Criticism is always painful. People generally don't like being wrong, and most people want to be perfect. I don't know if I got stronger because of it, but I learnt how to accept the opinions of others and actually think about what people have to say without crying or feeling bad about myself. A lot of my school mates just can't handle not being perfect. They can't accept that other people think differently than they do and they feel like they aren't good enough. Being around my family, I see that it isn't about being perfect, but about being better, and that everyone has their own opinions. They talk so much about others that I just ignore it.

Mamapolo2016 · F

Thank you. I think so often parents are so gentle with their kids (me included) that when they do hear criticism they think the last, unspoken, part is ‘so I hate you’ or ‘you’re no good’ or ‘so I don’t love you anymore.’ @SW-User

BoobooSnafu

@SW-User WOW.......what an attitude for one so young. The "Criticism is always painful" comment....you are so right !!!!..but learning to see it for what it is......learning to see the logic and reason of it, without the emotional impact !!!.......wow - that's the amazing part.
I have read your words three times - and am still trying to get your words to sink in. I know the theory.......but I still can't detach myself emotionally from negative comments - although - I think I recover faster these days.
But you have a strong sense of self - I admire that.!!! Very much. There are many who NEVER achieve this in their life time !!!!

You should be very proud of that !!!

aaaabbbb

@BoobooSnafu she had surprised me with her answer

BoobooSnafu

@aaaabbbb ...Yes! - there is a lot of wisdom there !!!
Not something often found these days...especially in one so early in their life.!!!
She has a lot of balance for her age !.....I admire that!