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If your ex said:

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Yes

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[c=#4C0073]I love you and miss you everyday and I want to try again. The only real problem in our previous relationship was me and I have fixed that. I just want an opportunity to show you how much I've grown. You've seen me at my worst now let me give you my best.

What would you do or say? Would you take them back?[/c]

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Raffie · 61-69, F Best Comment

I would say that he realizes how much you mean to him and the absence proved that his feelings are genuine. Give love another chance, for life is short and if it ends today, you would have never known the depth of his feelings and always wondered.

BondGirl84 · 36-40, F

wud sooner throw acid in his face & cut his dick off

VioletRayne · 31-35, F

😳

Haniazed

I believe in second chances but I probably would start with a friendship first.

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Haniazed

@Archiesgirl: I am?😂

Haniazed

@VioletRayne: exactly...

VioletRayne · 31-35, F

@Haniazed: [c=#4C0073]yeah you are [/c]

reubles · 41-45, M

nope, because old habits tend to resurface sooner or later.

SW-User

Totally agree...

VioletRayne · 31-35, F

[c=#4C0073]True [/c]

Meisje · 31-35, F

My ex was like that, and I gave him two chances and both times were disappointing.

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Meisje · 31-35, F

@AngryPanda: Yeah, essentially lol

VioletRayne · 31-35, F

[c=#4C0073]yeah that doesn't sound too reassuring.[/c]@Meisje:

greenmountaingal · 70-79, F

If he is an addict and his substance abuse sparked most of his bad behavior...NO. Tell him to stay off it for at least 5 years before he even speaks to you.

If he has been abusive...NO.
Abusive men never change, and they find it much easier to lure a former victim back than to look for, find, court and train a new victim.

If he was just immature and you think he has learned how to value a relationship, you could give it a try...but don't expect too much because people don't change often or easily.

SW-User

I can't think of an ex that I would be willing to give a second chance. I dont have any, "if only...." relationships

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SW-User

@ChasingBrainBros: I've blocked him, although I know he has multiple accounts. What I realized is he makes me want to say rude things and generally that's not my personality, so best to ignore him.

CheshireCatalyst · 36-40, M

@Archiesgirl: I only know he spoke because you name-checked him, he got blocked looooong ago :)

SW-User

@ChasingBrainBros: lol. I appreciate when SW does that, it doesn't always. I like to know who I can't see. Did I block them or did they block me? 🤔

CheshireCatalyst · 36-40, M

If I was single, yes. You can always leave somebody again if they're a flipping liar.

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VioletRayne · 31-35, F

@ChasingBrainBros: [c=#4C0073] I honestly don't know and that's unusual for me. I know myself very well; I know what I want. In this situation, I just don't know. I don't trust myself where this particular person is concerned; I have very strong emotions. I don't know if I'm seeing what I want to see, or if I'm seeing what's actually there. I know that there are definite changes, but I don't know if these are changes in approach or changes in mindset. There is genuine remorse but is it remorse for the loss, or is it remorse for the actions, or even some weird amalgam of both? I don't know. I truly don't know but, I have to make a decision.[/c]

CheshireCatalyst · 36-40, M

@VioletRayne: I guess you have three choices:

A ) go

B ) stay

C ) find a convoluted, devious way to test the extent of the change! 😈

VioletRayne · 31-35, F

@ChasingBrainBros: [c=#4C0073]yeah I'm working on C😂[/c]

Elandra77

I would not acknowledge any attempt of communication of theirs. They can go fuck themselves.

VioletRayne · 31-35, F

👍🏾

SW-User

hmmm he did say some of that and it was bollocks...it's never going to be the same.

VioletRayne · 31-35, F

[c=#4C0073]Thsts true, but maybe you two could create something better [/c]

SW-User

@VioletRayne: Nope, it was too painful..better to start fresh elsewhere.

plungesponge · 41-45, M

Yes. SHIT

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SW-User

@plungesponge: if I had someone special to me I think that I might. Personally I have a very strong motivation for believing people can grow and change. I would want to test that.

plungesponge · 41-45, M

My advice is that people can change, but you are under no obligation to give anyone a second change unless they have proven beyond any doubt you may have, that they have changed.

VioletRayne · 31-35, F

[c=#4C0073]I agree wholeheartedly [/c]@plungesponge:

lost213 · 46-50, M

I'd tell her this ship has sailed to more peaceful waters already.

Ukebaby

No but then I have sworn off all romantic relationships.

TheWhiteRabbit

depends on a million factors

VioletRayne · 31-35, F

[c=#4C0073]like what?[/c]

FallenOptimist22 · M

two of them say that all the time and yet one of them is still the same psycho, and i am still not compatible with the other one

and others hmm i don't think they will say that most of them are married

VioletRayne · 31-35, F

[c=#4C0073]yeah psychosis is never attractive [/c]

PaleandPolluted · 36-40, F

I just want an opportunity to show you how much I've grown.

that bit got on my nerves. Cheesy and cringeworthy.

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PaleandPolluted · 36-40, F

@VioletRayne: yeah, one of my exs spun this on me a few years after he was the most insincere person I've ever met.

PaleandPolluted · 36-40, F

Came across as submissive and nerdy... he was flirting with loads of women. Talking to them online when I was at his house even. His wife thinks she's got a good catch, he was flirting with me when she was pregnant.

VioletRayne · 31-35, F

[c=#4C0073]oh wow😳[/c]

SW-User

VioletRayne....what about you? Would you give that second chance??

VioletRayne · 31-35, F

[c=#4C0073]I honestly don't know that's why I asked the question. I'm not opposed to a second chance for anyone. People do stupid things when they're young that they would never do once they've grown. There would have to be something different about them. Something to show that they really did change.[/c]

SW-User

@VioletRayne: I agree on the age thing. I work in a high school and see it often. I meet many of these kids in 8th grade and a great deal are so different and have grown so much by the time their senior year rolls around.

SW-User

They don't change, they just wanna smash.

VioletRayne · 31-35, F

[c=#4C0073]i honestly don't know about that one. He's been at this for years now. Plus he's gorgeous and he's never had a problem with acquiring women. Why go through the hell he knows I'm going to put him through?[/c]