How to get over being jealous

I can relate, I am the jealous type, like extremely jealous,I'm not the one to blame my past for anything, but sadly for my jealousy I have too. Jealousy is the fear of loosing someone you love, most will say, ohhh don't worry, if they really love you, there is no reason to be jealous, they won't leave, trust them... what mist tend to forget is that jealousy is NOT only related to a partner, In my case, I was abandoned at a very young age by the one person on earth I should trust the most and that should never leaves me deliberately, my own mother, she left me at the orphanage at 3yrs, turned and left, never came back. After that I was abandoned by so many people, if not physically then emotionally and mentally, that I developed what's called, the orphan syndrome, it can be cured if treated young and early when diagnose, but if not, the sequel are permanent. In my case it's permanent. Even if I trust one with my life, the fear of loosing them overpowers it, no matter what I try or do. Sometimes it can calm down a little,but the smallest little thing can trigger jealousy to raise up. And Even I know I'm the only one my jealousy can hurt, cause most the people in my life or that have been in my life are not jealous at all or don't believe in jealousy.. I can't sadly help it, and as weird as it may seem the fact that they aren't jealous at all, doesn't help as it's like they don't care or mind if they loose me.. I know it's all in my head, I'm trying really hard to work on myself, but it's who I am

Good luck

Sounds more of a "trust" problem. You should talk to him.

Jealousy kills relationships because it becomes suffocating over time. And that is why I suppose he does not like you being jealous.
Of all the girls he speaks with, he chose you to be with him. He could have chosen any of the others but he chose you. So what if he talks to them? They're just people at that point.
Jealousy says more about your insecurity than his trustworthiness, unless he has given you reason to not trust him. So I suppose you need to work on your issues in building confidence in yourself. He is probably as scared of losing you as you are him.

has he done something for you not to trust him messaging other women, how often does he message these women, are they good friends or just random women, have you met any of them, has he talked about any of them, are you feeling jealous cuz of him or from past relationships? do you have a good reason to feel this way or is this just all in your head? try too figure out why you feel this way.

get yourself a man you don't have to worry about... if he doesn't like you being jealous, he shouldn't do things that he knows would encourage it.... have confidence in yourself. heck with him. find someone you can trust.

If "he" refers to your boyfriend, you should discuss what messaging other girls includes because often, that's how they get side hoes and all that, I see it all the time in college

Never understood that kind of jealousy, at all. Never felt it in a relationship, ever. Openly flirting with someone else or something, that hurts. Talking to other girls? No problem.

You're his and he's yours and those other friends that are girls know this yeah!? So then jus remember the only thing you have control over is you. And trust in him as I'm hoping he does you..

Learn to be comfortable with yourself. As long as they do their part to make you feel secure.

Idk Im not the jealous type. I would think its a matter of how much you trust him

I get jealous if a girl talks to my date.

Jealousy is at its core the fear of losing something to someone else, in this case your partner's love. Logically speaking, if that's not a possibility, there's no reason to be jealous. Why does he message other girls ? Is it business or job-related, or are these platonic friends ? Would he be as accepting if you messaged other men ? These questions to consider.

my girlfriends very jealoua as well if u find out how to control yours message me.me im not jealous at all