How to get over being jealous

I have tried and he gets mad at me... When I ask him why he said this or this he said he doesnt know. Or just felt like saying it. He gets all defensive and hides his phone. Its nerve wracking because I don't want the same things to happen again

@KeKeNae95: There's this Spanish saying my mom told me once when I told her about the "jealous" comments my ex used to make... "the devil thinks everyone's like him" something like that.

In other words, the guilty accuse the innocent more easily. I think you're going to have to trust your gut on this one... Hiding his phone is a huge red flag as is.

Believe me, I was there not too long ago.

@tiffanyandasaltshaker: I figured but we've been together so long and I really do love him

@KeKeNae95: You have to love yourself more than you love him... nobody else is going to do it.

It's really hard, but you have to do what's best for YOU.

Thank you for the advice. It really helps :)

@KeKeNae95: I hope it does! Lord knows I've dealt with just that... good luck. :-)

@tiffanyandasaltshaker: how did it end with you?

@KeKeNae95: I discovered anxiousness that had never been there before... I was not going to start taking medications due to an asshole that did not care enough about me to make me feel secure in our "relationship". The relationship was doing me more harm than good.

I broke up with him last Saturday.

That's great that you were finally able to see and do that. This has my anxiety high too, and I get mixed things to do with this relationship. How long were y'all together?

@KeKeNae95: We were together for a bit over a year. I started noting "red flags" a few months after dating him... But I would always find an excuse for his behavior and my negative thoughts.

Leaving him seemed impossible... took a lot out of me. But, I feel free. Peace of mind is priceless.