How to get over being jealous

I always find myself getting jealous when he is messaging other girls because idk what is being said. He doesn't like me being jealous and neither do it. How can I just control it

Things have happened before with him messaging others and I am just scared it'll all happen again... I want to trust him but I do not trust them at all

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bijouxbroussard · F

Jealousy is at its core the fear of losing something to someone else, in this case your partner's love. Logically speaking, if that's not a possibility, there's no reason to be jealous. Why does he message other girls ? Is it business or job-related, or are these platonic friends ? Would he be as accepting if you messaged other men ? These questions to consider.

WhatShallIcallyou · 51-55, M

These are good questions. My bit to add is if it is totally reasonable that he is messaging those girls (like his sister, or work) and there is no flirting type behaviour, perhaps you are an anxious connector type. Have a look at this http://katherinewoodwardthomas.com/ub/ for a bit of an explanation.

KeKeNae · 26-30, F

They are girls he's met over the internet to talk to when he's bored or when they're bored. He compliments them, and actually talks to them and tells them things he won't tell me. They always seem way to flirty to just be "friends"