How to get over being jealous

I always find myself getting jealous when he is messaging other girls because idk what is being said. He doesn't like me being jealous and neither do it. How can I just control it

Things have happened before with him messaging others and I am just scared it'll all happen again... I want to trust him but I do not trust them at all

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SW-User

Jealousy kills relationships because it becomes suffocating over time. And that is why I suppose he does not like you being jealous.
Of all the girls he speaks with, he chose you to be with him. He could have chosen any of the others but he chose you. So what if he talks to them? They're just people at that point.
Jealousy says more about your insecurity than his trustworthiness, unless he has given you reason to not trust him. So I suppose you need to work on your issues in building confidence in yourself. He is probably as scared of losing you as you are him.