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looking4thesun · M

I would never expect them to remain virgins nor would I want them to.

Dez580 · 61-69, M

not now as the trend is ladies are marrying later in their late twenties or thirties, to think they would remain chaste is fantasy time

Northwest · M

Here's what I did, and this is not theoretical:

1. Made sure she got her HPV vaccination.

2. Made sure she went through sex ed

3. Discussed sex with her, why people have sex, the benefits of healthy sexual relationships, and how not to allow sexual partners to take away any of it.

4. The importance of protection against STDs, and emotional entanglements, as in: don't confuse lust and love.

5. Made sure that when she was ready, she did not do it in the back seat of a car, but at home.

Sex, like food, water, poetry, is good for body and soul, taking advantage of someone sexually is not. My daughter was prepared.

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Northwest · M

@Brianthesnail Thank you. It's common sense. My son, starting in high school, did not need to sneak around either. His girlfriend spent the night at home, with him.

Brianthesnail · 56-60, M

@Northwest as they say, common sense is the least common of the senses :)

Coralmist · 41-45, F

@Northwest She had SOME abuse but nothing like the horrors she put me in. I have PTSD now, low self confidence, etc. I'm going to find a new therapist soon. Ty again North🌸🌼

MorbidCynic · F

I don’t expect the impossible. Sex is natural and healthy. I don’t understand why people deny themselves that pleasure.

TheunderdogofNY · 36-40, M

@MorbidCynic societal pressure is such a motherfucker.

MorbidCynic · F

I’ve been actively working on breaking that mindset. I plan on teaching my kids the same, if I ever have any.@TheunderdogofNY

Carver · 31-35, F

No, I would only want her to be careful and practice safe sex for whenever she does.

JarJarBoom · 41-45, F

It would be nice, but I live in freaking reality

Keepitsimple · 51-55, F

No I was realistic and got her on birth control, vaccinated against HPV and expressed the importance of condoms.

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Keepitsimple · 51-55, F

Thank you! 🙂@SW-User

LarryZ · 56-60, M

I agree. That’s exactly what we did with our daughter. Be realistic. Kids will have sex and drink. Talked to then, get them protected, and let them know you will be there for them if they need help. . @Keepitsimple

Keepitsimple · 51-55, F

Better to be proactive than reactive. 👍@LarryZ

SW-User

Honestly, I prefer her would be virgin until her marriage.

But as long she didn't knocked up, and she knows to take care herself yeah I am fine (deeply I am not fine). 😦

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SW-User

@DrSunnyTheSkeptic I was raised that way. Like it or not I still stand with that.

I'd rather she focus on other things than sex.

I won't let boys take her for granted.

I've learn my past when my late mom told me not to engage sex at that age regardless how safe it sounds.

Boys won't take responsibility when the girl got pregnant. Instead the girl is being question the father of the child while boys just enjoying ejaculate it.
I've seen some of my classmates dropped out school after got pregnant (abortion is not legal here, just want you know).

Anyway, if she (my future girl) knows how to manage this, I always advice her not to play recklessly and sloppy. I really hope she is more mature than her age.

DrSunnyTheSkeptic · 26-30, M

@SW-User Focus? Do you focus on eating or breathing? It's something a person does. I think your experiences have made you paranoid on this.

SW-User

@DrSunnyTheSkeptic Paranoid or not I am being cautious. Don't take light on something before it was too late.

Starcrossed · 41-45, F

My wishes for my daughter aren't for chastity. They are that it won't happen too soon for her emotionally, that someone doesn't totally gut her and break her heart into a million pieces, that she always has self respect in her choices, is never assaulted, and is never pressured into it [as I have some bad PTSD-C from her own father doing that].

Degbeme · 70-79, M

I have a daughter. I have no idea if she was and I wasn`t about to ask.

ImpeccablyImperfect · 51-55, F

No. I’m not the boss of her body.

Salix75 · 46-50, F

No, I'd want her to embrace and explore and enjoy her sexuality (in a safe a responsible way)

We are long past (or should be) the double standards society has for men/women's virginity

SW-User

No. As long as she’s old enough and uses contraception, I think it would be good for her to have more than one partner in her lifetime .

SW-User

[c=#BF0000] Marriage has no significance for me other than a few legal privileges so hell no[/c]

Threepio

No...

And I would certainly have many talks about safety, responsibility and self worth.

Nothing worse than horny teens relying on "street knowledge"

Coralmist · 41-45, F

@Threepio You sound like you'd be a great dad.. mydad never talked to me about dating, boys, sex, Ever😞

Threepio

@Coralmist Thanks for the kind words.

I am a firm believer that "Knowledge is powerful"

JavaJoe · 51-55, M

I have a daughter, and she’s just starting to date in college. I’m pretty sure she’s smart enough to remain a virgin until she’s really ready for that whole level of responsibility

DunningKruger · 61-69, M

No. I think that people need to try different things to figure out what they like and what they need before they settle into a permanent relationship.

nudistsueaz · 61-69, F

no, not at all

curiousaboy · 26-30, M

@nudistsueaz Any reason for that?

smileylovesgaming · 31-35, F

No I wouldn't

texasmentor54 · 70-79, M

No, that is an unreasonable expectation and I think it makes no difference one way or the other.

HannahSky · F

Both genders can do what they want.

Degbeme · 70-79, M

@HannahSky 🔥

skmokisses · 46-50, F

I would prefer she wait as long as possible.

approachingmyexpirationdate · 61-69, M

After she reaches 18 i would p re efer not to know

SW-User

It's a current rule in our family.

DrSunnyTheSkeptic · 26-30, M

I'd expect her to use her head and not to put out unless the fella really cares for her and to make sure she's using proper protection and not giving into peer pressure or anything, that's the dumbest thing you could do.

JavaJoe · 51-55, M

@DrSunnyTheSkeptic thank you, Dr. House. ;)

SW-User

Entirely her decision

BlueRain · F

Nope

Alessandro · 46-50, M

Yes

Princessjen11 · 22-25, F

Yes

winchesterbros

cant really expect that in todays world where sex is everywhere and the internet kind of part-takes into that. would like for her staying off of tinder and not getting knocked up at 15.