Good idea? Bad?
Thinking about leaving a positive pregnancy test out for my partner to find to kind of tell him without telling him... opinions?
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DunningKruger · 61-69, M
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DunningKruger · 61-69, M
@tuquoque If you have something to say to him, then you should just say it, not hint around about it and hope that he picks up on the clues. If you're pregnant, then he kind of should know that sort of thing, unless there is a good reason for not telling him. I get the impression that you're expecting that he'll be unhappy about this news. Well, maybe he will be. That's too bad for him. He has a responsibility to you and to the child, if that's the direction you choose to go in. That sort of passive-aggressive expectation that your partner should pick up whatever clues you're hinting around about is potentially damaging to you, to him and to your relationship.
That's my opinion, anyway, which you asked for.
That's my opinion, anyway, which you asked for.
tuquoque · 31-35, F
@DunningKruger I didn’t really set up the context, which Is somewhat relevant. We have been wanting a family for a while. We had a pregnancy loss that made us back away from those plans for a while. I’m sure he’ll be happy, I just thought it would be something funny to do. I can’t imagine him being mad lol.
DunningKruger · 61-69, M
@tuquoque That's a different context, then.
Mamapolo2016 · F
If he will be thrilled, are you not thrilled?
If you're going to be parents, you need to be grownups...and a straightforward conversation and announcement is a good place to start. Leaving the test out for him to find sorta says...you tell me how you feel and if you get it right, I'll tell you how I feel, which is neither fair nor adult.
If you're going to be parents, you need to be grownups...and a straightforward conversation and announcement is a good place to start. Leaving the test out for him to find sorta says...you tell me how you feel and if you get it right, I'll tell you how I feel, which is neither fair nor adult.
plungesponge · 41-45, M
plungesponge · 41-45, M
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As opposed to having an actual conversation like an adult? What is this lol
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@tuquoque Is that something you do often?
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@tuquoque I wonder if he'd question if it was an accident after all.
Tminus6453 · M
Sure... is he going to be ok with it or is it a complete unexpected surprise?🤔
Tminus6453 · M
@tuquoque Then do it!
rckt148 · 61-69, M
I would hope if we were close enough to make a child ,
we were close enough for you to tell me .
I would want to hear it from you .
we were close enough for you to tell me .
I would want to hear it from you .
Zygote404 · 51-55, M
Just tell him normally or just hold it up and say guess what?!!!
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It'd probably be better to just tell him.
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plungesponge · 41-45, M
dragonfly46 · F
Would you want to find out that way?
rfhh1959 · 61-69, M
BAD IDEA