Do you think in a marriage either man or woman should be 'the boss'?

It is partnership not employee and employer

This is a direct quote from the Bible concerning husbands and wives.

Slot of people like to twist this.

Ephesians chapter 5 verses 21-33.

Wives and husbands be subordinate to one another out of reverence for Christ.

Wives should be subordinate to their husband's as to the Lord. For the husband is head of his wife just as Christ is head of the church, he himself the saviour of the body.

As the church is subordinate to Christ, so wives should be subordinate to their husband's in everything.

Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ loved the church and handed himself over for her, to sanctify her, cleansing her by the bath of water with the word, that he might present to himself the church in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish.

So husband's should love their wives as their own bodies, he who loves his wife loves himself. For no one hates his own flesh but rather nourishes and cherishes it, even as Christ does the church, because we are members of his body.

For this reason a man shall leave father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.

This is the great mystery, but I speak in reference to Christ and the church. In any case, each one of you should love his wife as himself, and the wife should respect her husband.

Notice this begins with a call for both husband and wife to be equally subordinate to each other.

Then it ends with love and respect.

Most of this passage admonishes husbands to love and honor cherish and nuture their wives as Christ loved honored nutured and cherished his church, and that included teaching God's words of love and compassion and salvation.

The word subordinate in this context doesn't mean servitude as some twist it to mean.

All it meant was after discussing things with his wife, listening to her thoughts and weighing them the final decision was up to the husband and the wife should respect his decision just as he respected her input.

Thanks for a great question.

Marriage is a partnership. Communicate always. Leave each other a bit of room. Don't keep "score".

It is a partnership, and you should complement each other with the one having the best skill/talent/knowledge in a given area taking the lead (but still involving the other). Dominance should be left for role playing, where you mutually set the boundaries. And I think most people are switches (I am) so who is Dominant and who is submissive might vary on any given day.

equality works for me in marriage and in most other things

The husband is the head of the family. That is what is proper and emotionally healthy

I tend to be the more dominant in relationships, but I certainly don't consider myself the boss. A 50-50 partnership works well with me.

I still have to see a marriage where both submit to each other completely.

Obvi no boss..

You work together that does sometimes mean one does a little more of one thing or another. But if both are working to help you don’t measure