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I Can't Fit In With People

A colleague sitting next to me is always talking about her children / her bearing children. No matter whom she talks to/ what topics she talks about she could fit in her children into the conversation. Many people working here have children and are interested in talking about their children too. I feel I cannot fit in here. I have no children, and am not interested in getting married nor having children. Maybe nowhere in the world will I fit in, but I think it s really odd to talk about your family all the time in the office.

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Softandsweet2 · 31-35, F

I think that is something you will never understand unless you become a mother yourself. To a lot of people, their children become their lives. I'm childless too but I feel the need to have kids, so it probably bothers me less. I know what you are saying though.

Sssslm · F

@Softandsweet2 thank you for understanding.

novembermoon · 51-55

These people are insensitive. And it's a sad fact that sensitivity to others can't be taught. It's either you have it or not. In such interactions, you also see who likes attention and showing off. I don't enjoy them at all. I move away whenever such a person comes along.

Sssslm · F

@novembermoon another topic some people like talking is the age of other people. They may not intend to be rude but they are really insensitive to me. It is something personal and offending because with this topic, it usually comes with judgments on appearance and work performance.

Cierzo · M

It is normal to sometimes talk about your children if you are a parent. But it is not, and it is rude, to talk ALL the time about them. Not talking to those people is not a loss at all, more the opposite.

Sssslm · F

@Cierzo I will avoid conversation with people different from me.

Mindful · 56-60, F

Im sure there’s a growing trend of people who don’t want to be parents. You may need to work near or in downtown metropolis, maybe think about entertainment based environment where people are less family oriented. ( not about the kids) I’m a single mom. I’ve been married. But I’m an independent thinker and have felt alone most of my life and get stared at when I’m just being myself. So you may just be original, but not alone because you’re “alone.”

Sssslm · F

@Mindful thank you for your advice. I should be confident with who I am, not afraid of being original as long as i feel my choices suit me.

Mindful · 56-60, F

Yes. I “walk alone” at work in my choices at work. And people don’t like me for it. So yes be true to yourself! Honestly, no matter what I do no one is happy and there is always someone that has the opposite opinion of what I’m doing.@Sssslm

GJOFJ3 · 61-69, M

You notice it because you are not interested in it. In casual conversation we really only talk about 3 or 4 things
Family
Play or sports
Work
News

Sssslm · F

@GJOFJ3 that s true. News is a topic that needs to be even more cautious.

Exhibiter100000 · 61-69, M

I too have no children and in my case do not plan on children. You fit in anywhere you need to don’t worry about others.

Sssslm · F

@Exhibiter100000 thank you, it s comforting to hear that :)

Exhibiter100000 · 61-69, M

Your welcome @Sssslm

xixgun · M

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